Just Before Risky Delivery, Pregnant Woman Tells Her Husband to Save Her over the Baby

The couple knew their child's birth would be complicated. As they entered the ward, the man was speechless when his wife told him to choose her over their unborn baby if the need arose.

A woman turned to Reddit's "AITA" forum with an extremely sensitive and triggering confession. Posting under Aithana, she shared how she asked her husband to save her life over their unborn baby's if any complications occurred during childbirth.

But the mother was shocked by her friends' extreme reactions after revealing her prenatal request to them during a Christmas party. She then asked strangers online to weigh in.

The Original Poster (OP) was chilling with her female friends at a Christmas party where they talked about babies. The topic went on for a good hour, and eventually, it was OP's turn to reveal what she thought about having another baby when her friend asked if she was ready to get pregnant again.

[T]hings took a different turn when OP, who was trying to have her second child, decided to answer her friends' questions truthfully about her pregnancy.

But after OP unfolded her opinions, her friends were "disgusted" and called her out for asking her husband to choose her over their baby during her first pregnancy. However, OP was firm on her reasons for making this bold request.

When OP conceived her first child, she initially had a perfect pregnancy. However, she developed gestational diabetes at 32 weeks. Her sugar levels were high because of obesity.

OP's OB-GYN scheduled a C-section delivery, and she didn't have any issues with this initially. She just wanted her child to be born without any complications, but that's when her worst fears kicked in.

Before moving into the labor ward, OP told her husband to save her if anything happened where he needed to choose between mother and child. Unsurprisingly, her request left the man deeply shocked and urged him to come up with a prompt decision.

The intense few seconds of their conversation led to a brief silence, and then OP's husband agreed to what she said. He also insisted they keep her mom informed about their decision.

Luckily, everything went smoothly, and both mama and the baby survived. But things took a different turn when OP, who was trying to have her second child, decided to answer her friends' questions truthfully about her pregnancy. To her disbelief, the women were less than cool about her response.

OP told her friends that she wanted another baby and wasn't intimidated by pregnancy. However, she said that she still anticipated complications in her delivery and feared leaving her daughter without a mother in the hopes of giving her a sibling.

She then admitted to telling her husband to pick her over the baby again if something went wrong during her labor. Unfortunately, OP's confession backfired. Her friends told her she needed to rethink her decision and stop being a "negative" person.

But OP stood her ground, saying all she wanted was to be prepared for "every possible case" that could go wrong in her pregnancy. She believed she was right and wanted the internet to decide whether or not she'd been faulty.

OP's story blew up in a heated debate, with people flocking from both sides to share their serious opinions. Some weren't shy about sharing their personal stories that mirrored OP's dilemma. The post's top-voted commenter PrometheusMadLad declared OP wasn't wrong and stated:

"You can make another baby, there can't be another you. Also, if your Husband agreed, it's none of their business."

Some like Redditor go_Raptors shared they lived through OP's situation. "The doctor just point blank said, "if it comes down to you or the baby, we save you." Luckily, we both made it out ok," the person recounted.

User vvousmevoyez shared their thoughts about how a couple with one child might have a better quality of life than a widowed father with two motherless kids. "They can choose to have future kids, but they can't choose to bring the mother back to life if she dies," the person asserted.

In the end, an overwhelming lot of commenters declared OP faultless. But after reflecting on those who felt she could've avoided choosing her life over her baby's on a speculative basis, OP made another revelation, hoping it would further clarify things.

"When the conversation was brought up, my husband said he thought the same thing," OP revealed. She said her husband told her he would save her if he were to choose between their baby and her but didn't know how to disclose it to her until she asked him.

OP clarified that she didn't force the decision on her husband and that she didn't make it for him either.

Questions to Ponder:

What would you do if you were the husband and you were told either the mother or the child could be saved during risky childbirth?

OP claimed that her husband had decided to save her life if there were any complications involved in childbirth. So when she told him to save her and not their child if something happened, he agreed as it was what he'd already decided. What would you do if you were the husband in this story? Would you give up on your child to save your wife or decide otherwise?

Do you think OP was overly negative with her second pregnancy?

After OP told her friends how she insisted her husband choose her again if any complications arose in her second pregnancy, they called her out and claimed she was being negative. They even argued that she needed to reconsider her thoughts. If you were OP's friend, what would you advise her? As a parent, what's your opinion about OP wanting to save her life over her child's during complicated childbirth?

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