Phil Robertson and Miss Kay of 'Duck Dynasty' Show Marriage Struggles
Through staying true to her values, Kay Robertson once saved more than just her marriage before she became the grounding family member of the wild duck hunters on A&E’s “Duck Dynasty.”
Phil and Kay’s history went back to their high school days when he starred as the school’s quarterback and she as debutante and cheerleader.
Phil Roberston and the then-16-year-old Kay made “a vow to God” and each other on March 22, 1964, but they didn’t legally get married until April 11, 1968.
The young Southern couple started a family soon after their initial union with the birth of their first son, Alan in 1965. Three years later Phil and Kay welcomed their second son, Jase, followed by Willie in 1972 and their fourth son, Jep in 1978.
But after Alan’s birth, Phil started drinking and with it came the emergence of a bad temper. At times Phil became physical and even kicked Kay and the children (Alan, Jase, and Willie) out of the house one day.
Instead of listening to advice that she should leave Phil, Kay followed the words of her grandmother that fought for her marriage.
“When I say, “I love you,” it's for life. If we had not stayed together I would not have known in my heart that I had done everything I could possibly do to make that marriage work,” Kay told FoxNews in 2014.
No one would have faulted Kay for leaving Phil. He became abusive when he drank and cheated on her, which she didn’t want to believe at first.
“I had adultery. I had found that out, and that was a fact. I didn't want to believe it, but it was true. Some people get drunk, and they're happy, happy, happy. Phil would be happy, but then he would get mean and very cruel with his words,” she said.
Phil’s drinking started when he got mixed in with the wrong crowd at college, and because Kay knew he had “a good heart,” she blamed the negative energy for the change in Phil.
“I told my kids, ‘Your dad is a good man. He has a good heart, but right now he's letting the devil control him, and that's who we should hate - the devil and not Phil. We'll pray and pray that the devil will leave him, but he has to make the choice to do that,’” she explained.
A few years before the birth of their son Jep, that’s exactly what Phil did, he gave up drinking and became a Christian.
But Kay also knew that matters wouldn’t change overnight and made sure the children understood as she said to them, “He's had 10 years to do a lot of bad things. It's going to take him time to grow. He doesn't know how to be good, but if we love him and help him, he will.”
During those ten years, Alan became Miss Kay’s “rock.” He helped take care of his brothers and never got to play like other boys his age.
“Sometimes I cried because he didn't have a regular childhood, but he'd say, ‘Mother, you did the very best you could, and you stayed with daddy.’ He tells me, ‘Do not ever feel guilty,.’” she recalled.
After Phil became a Christian, he founded the Duck Commander company in 1972. Having been an avid fan of duck hunting since his school days, Phil’s company sold a line of custom duck-hunting calls which accurately replicated the sounds of real ducks.
It quickly became popular among duck hunters, and Phil eventually sold it to his son Willie. Father and son then teamed up for a DVD about their family duck hunts, which led to their hit television show on A&E, “Duck Dynasty.”
The show premiered in 2012 and drew over 10 million viewers after its first year. Apart from the show’s success that followed, the Louisiana family also welcomed a new family member in 2018.