Since I lost 30 kg, my husband doesn't want me anymore

Dear AmoMama,

I was always a chubby girl. Since I was 8 or 9 I became aware that other kids were skinnier, and that I was the odd one out.

I was lucky that I had a small group of friends who loved me and accepted me for who I am, but I never felt pretty, and I never had a boyfriend in high school.

I met my husband at work, and he didn't seem bothered by my weight, though he is a fit and muscular man.

He was romantic and passionate and I felt like the luckiest woman in the world. He proposed, and I accepted, and we got married.

I couldn't believe it, walking down the aisle that he could love and desire a woman like me.

A year later we decided to get pregnant, and soon we were expecting our little girl.

The doctors said that my weight increased the risk of Gestational diabetes and put me on a strict diet. The pregnancy went well and by the end of it I had actually lost 15 kg.

I had never looked so good or felt so great, so I continued with my diet and lost another 15 kg by the time my daughter was 8 months old.

My husband hadn't made love to me since my baby had been born, so I decided to tease him, excite him with my new body. I went into a lingerie shop and brought some racy undies, and wore them for him that night.

His reaction was not what I had expected. He told me I looked sick, like those skinny bitches at the mall. He told me he'd married a woman not a rack of bones in Victoria's Secret whore clothes.

I am so hurt, so angry. He is repulsed by me now, he won't touch me, or make love to me, He tells me I am obsessed by my weight like every other neurotic woman he's ever met.

What should I do? How can I win him back? Should I put back the weight I lost to please him? I don't want to lose my husband,

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