'My teenage stepson looks at me in a very unhealthy way'

Dear AmoMama,

I recently got married to a wonderful man that I've been dating for two years. There is an age difference of 10 years between us, he's 38 and I am 28.

We have both been married before, but he's the one with children from two previous relationships. His children live with their mothers so I had minimum contact with them while we were dating.

Hubby would never make plans to see me on his weekends with the kids and I fully respected that. Now that we are finally living together, every second weekend is "family day" where we take the kids out and entertain them.

I feel like he goes out of his way to spoil them since he doesn't see them as often as he'd like, but I understand where he's coming from and he's really good with them.

His daughter is 9 and she's a real sweetheart. I braid her hair and we play around with makeup. I love having her come over. His son is a different story, however.

At 17, he's more man than a boy and I have noticed that he looks at me in a very unhealthy way. He doesn't take his eyes off me the entire time we're in the same room together. He's very intense.

I don't know if he's assessing me as his dad's new wife or undressing me with his eyes. I can't describe it, but he looks almost predatory. I can't make eye contact with him at all now.

I considered phoning hubby's previous wife to ask her if she felt anything hostile about the boy when she married his father, but I don't want to rock the boat.

It has got me so on edge that I feel anxiety before our weekends together and I make excuses sometimes to not join them on their little excursions.

Marrying my husband was the best thing I have ever done. We are planning to have children together soon. I feel I must be honest with him but I'm not sure if it's all in my head.

How do I tell my husband that his son makes me uncomfortable? He hasn't done or said anything wrong that I can use to justify it, it's just a feeling I get. Am I being overly sensitive? Please advise me.

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