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I’m Pregnant with My Ex’s Twins & His Girlfriend Is Treating Me like Their Surrogate

Ayesha Muhammad
Oct 26, 2023
01:10 P.M.

When a woman discovered she was expecting twins with her ex, he was overjoyed when she told him. However, her ex's new girlfriend's actions left the woman deeply upset.

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A woman holding a sonogram | Source: Unsplash

A woman holding a sonogram | Source: Unsplash

On April 8, 2021, an anonymous female poster turned to Reddit's "AITA" forum to share her story. The woman, aged 29, had a brief relationship with a man named Joe, 30, lasting only three months before he reconciled with his ex, Kim. "Right after we broke up I found out I was pregnant and now I'm at 24 weeks. I let him know and he was ecstatic," said the woman.

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A happy man talking on the phone | Source: Shutterstock

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It turned out that his current girlfriend, Kim, had fertility issues, making natural pregnancy unlikely for her. Despite Joe's desire to become a father and OP's pregnancy, rekindling their romance was not an option for either of them. Thus, Joe remained committed to his girlfriend, leaving the OP in a unique and complex situation.

What Happened after Kim Learned about the Woman's Pregnancy?

Joe could only accompany the OP to her first medical appointment due to COVID-19 restrictions. It was there that they found out the original poster was expecting twins. When Joe shared the news with Kim, she had a severe emotional reaction, triggered in part by her own infertility struggles.

Despite this, Joe, Kim, and their acquaintances labeled her as the antagonist.

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A pregnant woman | Source: Flickr

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A meeting was arranged at their home, during which Kim expressed her desire to be actively involved in the woman's pregnancy, considering herself the future stepmother. The woman recalled details of the meeting in these words:

"She started telling me that I needed to do a home birth, that I needed to formula feed so that they could have the babies half of the week, that she wanted one boy and one girl, and that she wanted the kid to call her Mama since they would be calling me Mommy."

Firmly rejecting Kim's demands, the woman asserted her autonomy in making choices regarding her children and her own body before leaving the conversation. Unbeknownst to her, Joe and Kim were far from finished, causing additional issues.

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Kim continued her intrusive behavior, bombarding the woman with daily texts about her diet and exercise routine. In her efforts to sound concerned, she also lamented her job's refusal to grant her maternity leave.

During a virtual genetics counseling appointment, which Joe couldn't attend, Kim dominated the conversation, veering into irrelevant details about her family history. When the 20-week level 2 scan approached, allowing only one guest, Joe suggested Kim accompany the woman, an offer the woman firmly declined.

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Man arguing with his sad pregnant wife | Source: Shutterstock

Joe eventually attended, learning the gender, as the woman preferred to keep it a surprise for herself and planned a gender reveal party. The woman shared her pregnancy announcement on social media, only for Kim to post her own version, emphasizing their pregnancy as "non-traditional" and revealing that they were expecting twins. Although irritated, the woman remained silent.

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Why Set Off the Pregnant Woman?

Tensions escalated when Kim organized a gender reveal party and a baby shower without inviting the woman. While the woman hadn't done anything earlier, thinking Kim was happy to become a stepmom, Kim's social media announcement about these events set her off.

Man and woman holding a black balloon with "boy or girl?" during a gender reveal party | Source: Shutterstock

Man and woman holding a black balloon with "boy or girl?" during a gender reveal party | Source: Shutterstock

Feeling like a surrogate, the woman confronted Kim on social media, asserting her parental rights and emphasizing Joe's lack of custody until the babies were born. She also communicated these concerns to Joe, emphasizing her decision to involve family court and have her mother as her birthing partner.

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Despite this, Joe, Kim, and their acquaintances labeled her as the antagonist. In fact, Kim's mother went to the extent of calling and demanding the woman give one of her babies to Kim, akin to a scene from a movie. Thereafter, the woman couldn't help but wonder if she was in the wrong for calling out Kim for making her feel like a surrogate.

How Did the Pregnant Woman Handle the Situation?

The OP promptly decided to hire a lawyer following advice from commenters. Later, she discovered that her pregnancy might have been intentional, leading her to involve the police. However, she soon learned that the cops couldn't intervene as no crime had been committed.

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Two women arguing | Source: Shutterstock

Still, she managed to obtain an order of protection against Joe due to their specific laws regarding such orders. Following this, she consulted a lawyer, who informed her that, in her current state, she had limited options concerning custody until the babies were born. To avoid potential legal complications, she decided to relocate to a different state, ensuring it wouldn't be the babies' home state, thereby minimizing the risk of facing charges.

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Meanwhile, Kim's aggressive response escalated the situation. She damaged the OP's car and vandalized her workplace, leading to her arrest for multiple offenses, including child endangerment due to the workplace being child-oriented.

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A woman flying economy class | Source: Shutterstock

Despite having orders of protection against Joe and Kim and moving states, she continued to face harassment. Since she was armed with evidence, she pressed charges in her new state and pursued a restraining order against them.

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