My dad playfully slaps my bum when I wear a bikini. Is it normal?

Manuela Cardiga
Mar 13, 2018
05:47 P.M.

Dear AmoMama,


I am 14 years old, and lately, I've been feeling very uncomfortable around my dad. During Summer my mom took me shopping and she bought me my first bikini.

I was really excited because it was my first grown-up swimsuit, but now I hate it. The first time I wore it my dad slapped my bottom, and it felt weird, and I said to stop it and he laughed at me and said I wasn't so grown up that he couldn't slap my bottom like a little girl.

And then I noticed that every time I wore it he'd find an excuse to step behind me, slap my bottom. I hate that he does it, and I caught him looking at me in a way that makes me feel bad. He doesn't look at me like I'm a little girl. And I saw him look at my chest.

I guess maybe dads do this? Maybe he really is upset that I'm growing up. It just doesn't feel right. I spoke to my mom and she said he's just feeling uncomfortable with the fact that I am now a young woman.

I don't think this is right either because he's making me feel uncomfortable and I don't want to be around him. I don't want him to look at me or touch me.

And then I think this is my dad and I must be sick to feel like this? Please, is this normal? Is this how it is? Because it doesn't feel right and I don't know what to do.

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