Ladies, do you think a man could remain faithful to one lady for his whole life?

Manuela Cardiga
Apr 04, 2018
02:04 P.M.
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Dear AmoMama, 


I am 53 and have been married to the same man for 35 years. I was 18 when we met, and he was 25, and he swept me off my feet. 

A month after the wedding I discovered he was having an affair, but he swore he would end it, and it would never happen again. It was a lie, of course, and over the last three decades, there have been many women, many affairs.

I don't know why, but after so many years of patience, I have reached my limit. I asked him for a divorce.To my astonishment, he broke down and cried, got on his knees and begged me not to leave him. He claims that I am his only love, his heart, and soul mate and that all those women were just for sex.


But I am a very attractive woman and have kept my figure. I see how other men have always looked at me my whole life. Why am I not enough for him? We've always had a very active sex life, and I have denied him nothing, ever. 

He claims men are not meant to be faithful, that they are incapable of having sex with just one woman. He tells me ALL MEN CHEAT! I cannot, do not want to believe that, yet when I look around I see so much evidence that he is telling the truth.

So many men with lovely and loving wives have affairs. WHY? Is this truly the nature of man? Should we just accept that our husbands will be unfaithful, bear the pain and humiliation of betrayal as part of 'normal' life?


The funny thing is, when my husband sees a man being friendly to me, he goes wild. Cheating is natural but only for him! I must be as I've always been, only his.

I've spoken to my lawyer, but I am hesitant. If I get involved with another man will he cheat on me too? Am I trading the devil I know for an even worse situation? He has now got my two grown-up sons on his side, and they are pressuring me to give up on the divorce idea.

I am supposed to stay and accept he will carry on as he always has until he is too old to seduce anyone, and I am too old to start again.

Tell me please Ladies, is he right? Is cheating 'normal'? Can a man remain faithful to one woman for his whole life?

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