August 17, 2018

I have been with my mate for 4 years and he is so mean to me, not affectionate or anything

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Dear AmoMama,

I have been with my mate for 4 years!! We have known each other for years. He is so mean to me.

He is not affectionate or anything. We have only had sex one time in the last year... He always calls me fat and doesn't do anything with me!!!

I know he is cheating but just can't catch it. Please help me??? I need advice!! I am very unhappy and feel like I'm ugly and too fat.


Dear Subscriber,


It sounds like you are trapped in an emotionally abusive relationship with a man who withholds affection from you, and demeans you constantly.

You say he doesn't make love to you or engage in a normal couple's social life. This relationship is draining you of your self-esteem and confidence in yourself as a woman. 

You also believe he is having an affair, insults you constantly and makes you feel fat and ugly.

My dear, there doesn't seem to be a single reason to stay in this relationship, but many reasons to leave. You may be clinging to the security of a familiar situation - as bad as it is - out of fear of the unknown.


Please believe that anyone who makes you less than what you are is someone you are better off walking away from. All it takes is that one small first step. You can do it.

Be strong, be happy, be yourself.

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