Here's a joke about a couple who went to counseling after three decades of marriage that will get you giggling.
You can't point the finger at a few couples for settling into not-so-constructive patterns after long periods of marriage.
You get married young, and slowly you realize you battle regularly and feel separated even when you’re in the same room.
In the story below, a couple decided to come for counseling because of the issues they had in the years they had been married.
When asked what the problem was, the wife went into a tirade listing every problem they had ever had in the years they had been married.
On and on and on: neglect, lack of intimacy, emptiness, loneliness, feeling unloved and unlovable – an entire laundry list of unmet needs she had endured.
Finally, after allowing this for a sufficient length of time, the therapist got up, walked around the desk and after asking the wife to stand, he embraced and kissed her long and passionately as her husband watched – with a raised eyebrow.
The woman shut up and quietly sat down in a daze. The therapist turned to the husband and said, "This is what your wife needs at least 3 times a week. Can you do this?"
"Well, I can drop her off here on Mondays and Wednesdays, but on Fridays, I fish."
LONG-MARRIED COUPLES' MOST COMMON COMPLAINTS
Meanwhile, according to experts, communication issues are commonly the most imminent grievance troubled couples share. The problems with communication then become connected to different issues.
Licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert Rachel Sussman said: “A big source of conflict is when they have different visions for what they want their life to be. They argue about money and finances, or when one wants to stay active and another gets sedentary, or about when to retire.”
Sussman suggested that the initial step to a healthier marriage is to recognize you have problems.
January 12, 2019