February 15, 2019
Ari Dennis and her partner chose to raise their youngest kid as "theyby", a new term which enables the child to determine their own gender.
The family, from Florida, want to let 11-year-old Sparrow decides their gender when the time is right. When describing the baby, they use the pronouns "they" and "them".
"There's nothing wrong with pink. There's nothing wrong with blue. There's something wrong with forcing kids into roles."
The parenting philosophy implies just parents and people who look after the infant know about the child's anatomy.
"We did not assign a sex at birth which means when they were born, they had genitals, we know what they are, we just chose to acknowledge that those genitals don't indicate anything about gender," Ari told WTSP.
She and her partner were motivated to raise Sparrow without a known gender after their older child named Hazel discovered gender when she was four years of age.
"We are in no way prohibiting Sparrow from having a gender, and we're not forcing them to be one gender or another," the 30-year-old mother explained.
"We just chose to acknowledge that those genitals don't indicate anything. We did not assign a sex at birth, which means when they were born they had genitals and we know what they are."
In an interview with NBC, Ari said that their priority is to guarantee their children feel acknowledged for their identity.
Ari said that despite the fact her mother was living with the family, she didn't know Sparrow's assigned sex during the initial three months of the child's life.
"There's nothing wrong with pink. There's nothing wrong with blue. There's something wrong with forcing kids into roles," the mother told WTSP.
Sparrow's family isn't the only one. They are part of a developing community doing the same.
A Facebook group named "Parenting Theybies: using they/them/their pronouns for kids from the start", which has around 350 members, is making a community for parents who are raising their kids outside of gender binary standards.
As indicated by the experts, reproductive organs uncover an infant's assigned sex at birth, but their gender comes around the age of four when children start to distinguish as masculine or feminine.