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June 12, 2019

Pam Dawber Still Affected by ‘My Sister Sam’ Co-Star Rebecca Schaeffer’s Tragic Death

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Years later, Pam Dawber is still devastated about the murder of her former co-star, Rebecca Schaeffer, who was like a sister to her.

Pam Dawber and Rebecca Schaeffer played on-screen sisters in the ‘80s sitcom, “My Sister Sam,” but their relationship off cam was that of a real-life sibling, hence Dawber’s grief after Schaeffer’s tragic death.

“We just kind of fell into this sisterly thing,” Dawber shared. “Cause I’d had a sister. My sister passed away when she was 22, and I was 25. And so having another young girl in the house was something I was very comfortable with. It was good for us.”

Pam Dawber. | Source: Getty Images


The “Mork and Mindy” star protected Schaeffer, who was then a teenager after she landed a role in their series. The two lived in Dawber’s Los Angeles for a few months with her then-boyfriend, Mark Harmon, whom she married.

After Schaeffer got a place of her own in Laurel Canyon, and later in West Hollywood, she grew occupied with “meeting people and having friends.” The young star was enjoying life in show business, which her stage sister was happy about.



“The one thing we did say to her, though: ‘You never put your real name on your mailbox, Rebecca.’ And she didn’t listen to that,” Dawber said.

Dawber knew it wasn’t right to place your last name on your mailbox while being on a hit series which will be running on air for a while. Having experienced receiving letters from a man pretending to be a young girl, Dawber made it a point to leave her business manager’s address on her license, “so that you can’t be found.”


Schaeffer had a stalker after her promo for “My Sister Sam” appeared in ‘86. Robert Bardo started watching her on the show and on taping, even sending a couple of fan letters, which she replied to.



Thrilled and excited, he flew from Arizona to Los Angeles to look for his obsession at the studio where the show was being filmed. Many times, he came with gifts, but security always denied him entry. Eventually, he decided to return to Tucson.

After the cancellation of “My Sister Sam,” Schaeffer took on bigger and more mature roles, including “Scenes from the Class Struggle in Beverly Hills” where she took part in a love scene, infuriating Bardo.



Enraged, Bardo attempted to purchase a gun but was declined by the seller after gaining knowledge of his mental health. He then turned to his brother for help with the purchase, which, according to prosecutor Rhonda Saunders, believed to be used for target practice. 

Under the condition that the gun could only be used with his presence, the gun was bought. Immediately, Bardo traveled to Los Angeles and headed to Schaeffer’s home, which he obtained through a private detective.

For years, she was devastated and guilty of what had happened, even losing connection with her younger sister’s parents.




Thinking it was a delivery of “The Godfather III” script, the actress opened her door on the morning of July 18, 1989, and saw Bardo holding the card he sent which she responded to, claiming he was Schaeffer’s biggest fan.

Amiably, Schaeffer excused herself to prepare for an interview. Bardo left to grab a bite, but shortly returned and was told he was wasting the actresses time. Within moments, he grabbed his gun and shot her in the chest, taking her life.

Bardo was found guilty of first-degree murder and was sentenced to a lifetime in prison after being found shouting his confession of murder on the streets.




While Schaeffer’s parents handled her death well, Dawber did not. For years, she was devastated and guilty of what had happened, even losing connection with her younger sister’s parents.

“I thought of Rebecca every day of my life probably for two years,” Dawber said. “There’s something just so painful about the thought… I hadn’t spoken to them since her death and possibly funeral, and I have felt guilty about that for all those years.”  


Years after the tragedy, Dawber stepped back from the Hollywood scene, following her marriage to Mark Harmon, to make their relationship “work.” The two both had successful acting careers but believed working in the business, and staying married was merely possible.


Another reason as to why Dawber gave up her career was to be available for her two sons who were then kids. She drove her kids to school and took part in an art class as a teacher, which brought her happiness.