Divorce is a complicated and messy procedure. When the couple in question has children together the issue gets even more complicated.
While many cultures around the world consider divorce a taboo, it has become more and more common in modern times. From athletes to the current President of the US, many marriages have ended in controversial and often pricey divorces.
Now a conflicted father-of-two took to Reddit to open up about his divorce and subsequent alimony battle. The concerned father took to the forum to find out if he was correct in his approach.
The father opened up saying he has joint custody of his children with his ex-wife. He went on to say that they had been married for twenty years when she cheated on him for about six months. The father went on to explain:
"We just finalized the divorce a month ago. I currently make about 500k, and had to pay 50k annually as alimony and child support. I thought that was far far too high for alimony and child support. So I lawyered up, and surprising slashed it down to 16k."
However, he claims that after telling his friends about the proceedings, they reportedly slammed him saying he was wrong for reducing the amount. However, he insists he stands by the decision saying:
"I disagree. I don't think that an extra 50k is needed for my children to survive. EDIT:THRIVE."
"I do take care of them every other week, and I do pay for most of their clothes, education, and classes, so I am still supporting them. I really don't think I'm an asshole. But I dunno."
He went on to add that while they were married his wife was a stay-at-home mother for 15 years. Reddit users were polarised by the post.
Some supported the man while others felt it was unfair and the children were being unfairly affected by his decision. Others felt that it was more than enough since he pays for most of the children's needs. One user commented:
"It’s 16k per year for 2 kids with 50/50 custody. Doing the math that means the ex wife has $330 per kid per week she has them. That’s a reasonable amount to feed and take care of each kid and even take them out on the weekends especially considering the husband buys their clothes, supplies etc too."
"Alimony I'd be on your side, but reducing child support you can afford, when you make that much more than their mother, is a YTA move imo. It'd only serve to reinforce to the kids the income disparity, which shouldn't be your goal."