Woman Sparks Debate for Wanting to Adopt a Child but Not Her Brother’s Kid
A woman had internet users talking after revealing she did not want to adopt her brother’s kid, but there’s more to the story. After getting to know the details, more folks seem to be in support of her decision.
The internet is usually no place to settle family disputes, but one woman couldn’t help trying to find out if she made a wrong choice by deciding not to adopt the biological child of her brother and his ex-girlfriend.
The woman took to Reddit a month ago to explain that her half-brother got his ex-girlfriend pregnant and took off. According to her, the brother is in the habit of running off in stressful situations and always returns after a while.
Another Redditor wanted to know if she was a horrible person for not wanting to adopt the kids of her sister, who died of an overdose
The pregnant ex-girlfriend is reportedly much younger than the poster’s brother and is not in any position to keep the baby, so she’s planning to put the baby up for adoption immediately after birth.
The poster’s stepmom found out and had an idea:
“When my stepmom (my brother mom) heard about that she called me and my husband because she knew we we’re trying to adopt and it would be such a ‘perfect’ situation. The kid would be able to stay in the family, my brother and his ex would still get to be involved, and we’ve been wanting a baby forever and already have our house ready for one.”
According to the woman, while her stepmom offered to babysit anytime, she couldn’t warm up to the idea. “I don’t want it to feel like I’m raising my niece. I want it to feel like I’m raising my son/daughter,” she said.
What makes the idea more appalling to the poster is that she knows her stepmom will be judgmental and doesn’t want to have family interfering in the way she and her husband raise their kids.
“Now she’s upset at us because we don’t want to and saying we’re horrible for opening our home to a stranger's kid and not to family,” the woman added of her stepmom while wondering if she had made the wrong choice.
Reddit users had a field day registering their opinions on the matter, and many agreed with the poster that she did the right thing. “If your brother and his ex-girlfriend are still involved, how do they expect you to feel like she's your child,” one Redditor asked.
“I'm sorry but your stepmom is WAY out of line. You are right that if you do this that baby would never be yours. If she wants her to stay in the family, she can move and take the baby herself.”
This family dilemma echoes other adoption-related issues that have been posted on Reddit. Six months ago, one Reddit user wanted to know if she was wrong for trying to adopt her niece, whose mom is a drug user and in no condition to raise kids.
Five months ago, another Redditor wanted to know if she was a horrible person for not wanting to adopt the kids of her sister, who died of an overdose. The poster claimed she never wanted or loved kids and revealed her cousin was willing to take them.