"I was frustrated that the parents of the child just let him disrupt everything," said a Redditor after he yelled at a stranger's baby in a restaurant.
If you don't like being surrounded by children, you must have heard people say that it will be different when you have your own kids. Watching other people's children scream and run around the house might be annoying for you, but you'll love to see your kids do the same and term it as their "adventure."
Some people also get annoyed when they hear toddlers crying in flights during take-offs and landings. On the other hand, if it's a parent in the same situation, they empathize and offer to help because they have probably experienced the same and know how it feels to see your child cry.
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MAN YELLED AT STRANGER'S KID AT A RESTAURANT
A Redditor found himself in a similar situation. He went to a restaurant to have dinner with his friends and spotted a child seated on the table right next to him. He shared that he doesn't like being around children for long periods, including his nieces and nephews.
The child was quite noisy, just like every other kid, and his parents were OK with it. The Redditor tried ignoring the boy and chatted with his friends, but that didn't work. The child then got out of his chair and started running around the restaurant. The last straw for the man was when he got up to go to the restroom, and the child bumped into him.
“Get away from me, you [expletive]!” shouted the man after the collision. The child started crying and returned to his parents, who lost their cool after seeing tears roll down their kid's cheek. They yelled at the man for screaming at their child, and he told them to control their child better.
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The heated argument caught everyone's attention in the restaurant and continued until the manager intervened. The Redditor immediately left the restaurant with his friends after paying their bills. To his surprise, his friends thought he shouldn't have yelled at the child. He asked other Redditors for their opinion, and one of them said:
"YTA. Say the same thing to an adult who accidentally bumps into you and see what happens. Whether you like kids isn't the issue, it's your abysmal social skills."
Most Redditors bashed the original poster for calling the child "[expletive]." They said that the man was at fault because he was annoyed by the child even before he did anything. They told him to learn how to tolerate kids and not be "dismayed" by their existence.
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IS IT NORMAL TO DISLIKE OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN?
A Mumsnet user, Dollydaydream97, asked other users if it was normal to dislike other people's children. She said that it's not like she is "horrible" to children, but she doesn't prioritize being around children. The woman also revealed she was pregnant, and it might be the hormones that make her feel this way.
Most people said that they also feel the same way. They only like their children and don't like being around other people's kids. One user also said that they like being around children if they are on good terms with their parents. Another user commented:
"I feel really awkward around other people’s kids to be fair. Every so often they’ll be a really funny one that I like but in general I wish they’d leave me alone. Love my own DS dearly and I can’t get enough of him. It’s different with your own."
Most users also said that it's different with their own children. Becoming a parent naturally makes people love their kids, and they don't mind being around them. Some people also start loving other people's kids and don't mind spending time with them.
Baby smiling while looking at the camera | Source: Pexels
A person asked Quora users what it means when someone says they don't like children except their own. The most upvoted comment said that some people consider themselves "kid-unfriendly" and feel awkward around other people's children because they are noisy, untidy, and always need help.
These people are most likely going to turn down babysitting and teaching jobs. They won't go the extra mile to entertain someone else's kid, and neither will they plan to have a baby. However, when they become parents, they fall in love with the tiny version of themselves.
They start caring for the child and don't care if they are messy, needy, or noisy, but that doesn't mean they will begin loving other people's kids immediately. The Quora user asked the original poster to give the new parent some time, and they will start liking other children too.
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THE FEELING DOESN'T ALWAYS GO AWAY
"You will start liking children once you have your own," they said, and she believed it. However, when she stepped out of her house for the first time after becoming a mother, she realized her feelings hadn't changed. She loved her own kids but didn't feel the same about the ones she didn't know.
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revealed that she grew up with kids around her since her mother ran a daycare at home. She always saw other people's children being noisy and messy inside her house, making her dislike kids.
After she grew up and had her own children, she thought things would change, but they didn't. She still disliked other people's children except for her friends' kids. That's mainly because they mingle with her children while she spends time with her friends.
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People like her do exist in real life, and what they think is acceptable. However, it's not right to scold or misbehave with other people's children just because you are uncomfortable around kids. As adults, it's their responsibility to keep their frustration to themselves and not direct it towards other people's children.
Do you dislike other people's kids? Or do you love spending time with children? We'd love to know which part of the population do you belong to. Please let us know in the comments what you think about this topic.
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