September 30, 2021
Will you get inked after your soulmate asks you to do it? One man proved his love by doing it for his wife. But when he asked her to ink his name, she downright refused and asked him to not "force" her to do it. Does tattooing a loved one's name prove your worth to them?
Redditor "ThrowRA_1230123" expletively questioned on the online forum if he'd done justice to his relationship by asking his wife to get inked. According to the Original Poster (OP)'s mentioning, he'd walked the extra mile to get his wife's name inked upon her request. However, his better half didn't have the same idea.
There's no precise figure about the number of people who choose to showcase their love this way. Getting addicted to tattoos means getting addicted to pain. According to research, getting a detailed tattoo involves more pain than a less detailed one. So, was it because of this OP's wife refused to get inked?
GETTING INKED TO SHOW OTHER'S YOU'RE COMMITTED MIGHT BACKFIRE
In several relationships, partners suggest their soulmates get inked so that the world gets a glimpse of their relationship. Letting others know that they are already committed brings joy to the heart. But the idea isn't okay for some, like OP's wife. "She dared me to get her name tattooed on myself. I did it," he said, adding:
"I recently told her she should get my name tattooed on her, so I don't feel like such an idiot. She said she's against tattoos. And that I'm "abusing" her by expecting her to "ink herself up."
Sometimes, the big argument gets heated up when you don't have a say on what goes on in your soulmate's body. For instance, News10 reported a similar story citing the partner vs. tattoo emotional combat after a woman's beau disapproved of her refusal of him getting inked.
IT'S PAINFUL WHEN YOUR SOULMATE DISPROVES YOUR DENIAL
A person named Heather sought expert opinion after her fiancé claimed she didn't have a say on the design of his tattoo and where he's getting inked. "I told him I didn't like the tattoo or the location of it, and he just blew me off," Heather explained, adding:
"He said just because we're engaged that doesn't mean I have control over his body, so I shouldn't have a say in his tattoo choices."
The young woman questioned the online forum whether her fiancé sounded too mean. However, experts pointed out backing Heather's fiancé, saying it's always nice to check about tattoo choices but never to force the decision of whether they should get tattooed or not.
SOME FEAR A POTENTIAL BREAKUP & IT MAKES SENSE WHY THEY DON'T WANT TO GET INKED
Being committed to someone might give you butterflies whenever you see them. Some people take things to the next level with a special tattoo that illustrates how much they mean to each other. But what if your soulmate fears a breakup in the long run and thinks getting inked is a bad idea?
Redditor 123Throwaway10 found himself entangled in a similar emotional trap when his girlfriend took his tattoo joke seriously and even scheduled an appointment with an artist. "I would never ask her or allow her to get a tattoo of my name in her own body because what if we don't last forever?" OP explained.
Shockingly enough, some experts claim that possessive tattoos are warning signs that a relationship is doomed. Mary Garnett, co-owner of Clean Slate Laser Tattoo Removal, says that getting a partner's name inked is an omen, and you might as well break up in the long run. Also, some tattoos are chunks of a past relationship, claim experts.
DOES THAT TATTOO OF HIS EX EVEN MATTER TO YOU?
Sometimes, the traumatic end of a relationship can result in a regrettable tattoo your partner wants to have to recall his past with an ex. A befitting context of this would be a question on a Quora forum emphasizing the reason why a partner refused to remove a tattoo with his ex's name on it.
"Well, because his body is his canvas, it tells his story, not yours. My husband is covered head to toe with all sorts of tattoos, and each one has its own individual story," a person named Jennifer advised.
Most would suggest getting over the fact that your partner had an ex in their life for the sake of seeding long-term commitment in your relationship. According to a survey, nearly 75 percent of 600 respondents regretted getting at least one of their tattoos.
INKING A LETTER GOES A LONG WAY
Not wanting to go through the painful process urges some people to add cover-up tattoos or blackout tattoos instead of removing the existing one, claim experts. Meanwhile, some people prefer getting the first letter of their partner inked instead of their full name. In a similar context, one Redditor wrote:
"We are very stable. However, I just don't think tattoos of a lover are a good idea, especially since we are such a young age."
Being considerate about situations is crucial for a relationship to function efficiently. Also, if you're aware of a potential breakup, you should know your tattoo will probably last longer than your relationship if you prefer revamping it instead of going under the needle again to remove it.
IS IT OK TO ASK YOUR PARTNER TO GET INKED?
There are plenty of reasons people ask their partners to get inked. Apart from being a permanent body art, knowing their soulmates would do "anything" for them pleases. But the answer to the candid request isn't always a surprising "yes," claim some. "Is it wrong to ask my husband to get a tattoo for me?" a person wrote on a Quora forum.
"It's not wrong to ask, but don't be surprised if he refuses. My personal opinion is that it is extraordinarily [expletive] to get a person's name or special symbol tattooed on you for life because no one knows what the future holds," a respondent named Melissa Hoy advised.
Removing a tattoo is easy said than done, claim experts. A report on Pinkvilla emphasized the drawbacks of getting inked, stressing that a permanent tattoo isn't always a sign of true love and commitment. Apart from who you're doing it for, it's always important to know "why" you want it, say experts.
SOME TATTOOS CAN GO AWRY
Before going under the needle, it's crucial to understand the design and how your tattoo is interpreted. Body art being permanent, you cannot afford to ink a lifetime mistake on your body and later on regret it. For instance, one husband's romantic body art tribute to his wife turned out to be a "love rat!"
"It wasn't until Jimmy Ames, 37, realized that his hearty tribute in getting a Chinese "love" symbol inked onto his arm would turn out to be the symbols of a love rat after his tattoo combined with an existing one."
According to tattoo artists, getting your significant other's name inked no matter how healthy your relationship is deemed a kiss of doom. Ohio-based tattoo artist Chris Long claims that names tattooed upon your body don't make you more committed, and it's not like a shirt you can take off if you don't want it.
Though inking your soulmate's name is a painful yet appeasing way to demonstrate your love for them, it's always necessary to consider the possible regrets one might encounter in the future. Experts claim that there's no point in getting inked knowing your relationship is short-lived.
Some people still go through all the pain and confusion to exhibit their commitment to their special someone. However, it's essential to consider the person involved and know if they're okay with the idea of lending their initials or name to be a permanent artistic scar on your body. Fortunately, this form of body art comes with some exceptions to the no-name rule.
Getting inked in memory of a loved one who has passed away is very unlikely you'd have a reason to change your feelings and remove the tattoo in the long run. Also, it's a very touching way to show that you'll not forget a dear one from your past. However, for people deciding to remarry or date again, the decision is to always reconsider before going under the needle.
It's always worth your time and money to consider the consequences before you decide to show your significant someone in the most permanent and artistic of ways. Remember, tattoo removal isn't just complicated. It's painful! Thanks for reading!