January 13, 2022

Family Insults 25-Year-Old in His Obituary after He Passed Away in a Car Accident

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The loss of a family member can be devastating to all relatives, who most likely want to remember the best in the individual who passed. However, some have a unique, almost brutal way of commemorating their loved ones. 

The family of a 25-year-old correctional officer from New York showed their admiration for their beloved Cody James Holland. 

They referred to the son, grandson, cousin, great friend, and uncle as someone who paved his own path, loved to have fun, and had a one-of-a-kind personality.  

Cody James Holland. │Source:



Tragically, all these doting words were found in the obituary, shared online, of the correctional officer who died from drunk driving on August 8, 2020. The obituary playfully outlined some of his quirky attributes, reading

"He loved Sour Patch Kids, Swedish Fish, Shania Twain... He loved his middle finger and showing his butt to the world!"

They bantered about how, when he was a child, he said that would be a pornstar when he was older. All in all, his relatives spoke about the correctional officer's vast capacity for love. 




Shockingly, however, the obituary took a twist when it didn't fail to mention the cause of Holland's death and the irresponsibility attached to it. The brutal statement said:

"Cody James left us... as a result of injuries sustained from being a  dumb [expletive]. He drank, drove, and didn’t wear his seat belt! Please, don’t be a dumb [expletive]!"

Of course, this part of the obituary didn't go unnoticed as netizens took to their keyboards, eager to express their opinions.



Some online warriors, of course, did not approve at all. His mother, Colleen Lynch, and aunt Trisha Gutterson Culligan responded.

They both emphasized via Facebook that their decision to include the harsh content was to warn others of the dangers and possibly save lives in the process. The aunt encouraged individuals to call someone if they were inebriated. 


Culligan also reminded her fellow web citizens that it was her family and not their family who was grieving, and they should be allowed to do it in the way they so choose. 



Of course, most of the obituary was simply praising and lovingly teasing Holland. When it came to a summary of who he was as a person, it stated

"Cody James Holland. The man. The myth. The legend. Tough guy with a big heart!"

This young man was not an individual his family decided to view as someone with black-and-white morals. Instead, they placed him in the grey where he, like all of us with our imperfections, is still worthy of unconditional love. 

Danielle Gibson sings to her husband Tony for the last time. | Source: Campaign Update



Holland's relatives dealt with his death in their own unique and beautiful way. Danielle Gibson also took on a heartfelt approach when her spouse passed away. 

In an emotional video, she sang "Amazing Grace" one last time to her dying husband and dad of four kids. With Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease, 33-year-old Tony Gibson began to deteriorate.

Visiting Tony at the hospital one day, she sang "Amazing Grace" to him. A few days later, he had slipped away from this world, comforted by the memory of her soothing voice.

From lyrics to obituaries, words are more potent than many realize. From helping us heal to soothing us as we walk into unknown territory, it appears that the pen is indeed mighty. 


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