When a man's niece told her she wanted to come out to the whole world, he suggested she wait for her wealthy grandfather to pass away to get her share of the inheritance. At that point, he wasn't prepared to face the damaging consequences of his suggestion.
For many children, coming out might seem impossible because of the fear of being judged. As a result, they might suppress their feelings instead of accepting how they feel and telling others about it.
Usually, if children find someone they feel comfortable with, they might share their feelings with them first. This person can be a parent, a friend at school, or even an uncle or aunt. The girl in today's story confided in her uncle, who presented her with a suggestion she hadn't expected.
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REVEALING HER SECRET
A 42-year-old man took to Reddit's AITA sub while keeping his identity under wraps. He revealed that his 17-year-old niece shared her secret with him, hoping he would support her.
When she confessed she was not straight, the man told her he was there for her and that she could trust him. However, things took a different turn when she expressed her wish to come out to the whole world. He revealed:
"I let her know she should absolutely wait for her grandparents (my parents) to pass."
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OP (Original Poster) suggested she wait for his father to die because he knew about his terms of inheritance. OP's father had made it clear that family members who declare they are not straight wouldn't get their share of the estate.
When the man asked his niece not to come out of the closet, he hadn't thought about his wife's reaction.
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Moreover, he had also decided to donate that person's share to charity, so other family members don't give it to him after the man died. OP didn't want his niece's share to be erased like that. He said:
"My father is incredibly wealthy and has tens of millions of dollars in assets that he will be passing down once he is gone."
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THE CONCERNED UNCLE
OP thought his niece should wait for her grandparents to pass away because they were already sick. His father had stage 4 cancer, and his mother's dementia worsened with time. OP said:
"I told my niece she should stay in the closet for a while longer."
After hearing that her uncle didn't want her to tell everyone about her sexuality, the teenage girl felt sad. However, she also realized inheriting seven million dollars from her grandfather wasn't something to be taken lightly.
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HIS WIFE'S REACTION
When the man asked his niece not to come out of the closet, he hadn't thought about his wife's reaction. She was against his decision because she didn't want the girl to hide her true identity to appease her grandfather. OP argued:
"I feel like her life quality will be much better with 7 million dollars at the cost of 1-2 years in the closet at tops."
After seeing his wife's reaction, the man felt he might have done something wrong. To seek advice from strangers on the internet, OP wrote about the incident in a Reddit post, saying he had seen his father's will and was sure his niece would receive seven million dollars.
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"NTA. You're just advising her, not forcing her. She still gets to choose."
Redditor Starlighter18 agreed that hiding one's true identity is "sad" but felt OP was not at fault. The user said OP's niece didn't have to risk millions of dollars by revealing her sexuality and could wait until her grandparents died.
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THE GIRL'S DECISION
After hearing what her uncle said, the girl had the option to do whatever she liked. From what OP said in his post, it seemed like the girl preferred to hold off her coming out. OP said:
"She was a little sad but was also appreciative since that is obviously a life-changing amount of money that will allow her to live luxuriously until she dies."
The girl told her uncle about her coming out instead of her friends, siblings, or parents because she trusted him. She knew he would support him, and that's what children look for before revealing they are not straight.
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ADVICE FROM EXPERTS
Experts suggest parents and families of teenagers talk to them and learn about their interests. If the teen shares their sexual orientation, their family should assure the child they support them.
Parents and family members of such teenagers should accept their sexuality and never try to impose their opinions on the kid. They should also take immediate action if they notice the child feels anxious or depressed.
After reading the story, do you think the man did the right thing by advising his niece not to disclose her sexual orientation? What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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