Nurse Mom Decides to Stop Giving Allowance to Her 10-Year-Old Son after Discovering Where the Money Goes

A mother who works as a nurse gave her 10-year-old son an allowance but stopped when she discovered who was pocketing the cash. A confrontation ensued, leading the culprit to accuse her of being heartless and financially controlling.

A mother living with her son and husband opened up on Reddit about a financial situation in their home that led to conflicts and accusations. The mother, who is a nurse, said her son was ten years old, and her husband was unemployed.

She added that due to her profession, she was often busy, and her husband took care of their son. The nurse said that when her son turned 10, he started getting an allowance from her to buy the things he wanted.

The original poster (OP) thought her son was using the allowance but was surprised when she accidentally found out that her husband was taking the money and using it to buy his own stuff. He bought things like alcohol and cigarettes.

How Did the Nurse Find Out Her Husband Was Stealing Their Son's Allowance?

The nurse's son had enough of his father taking his money and reported him to the mother. As per the son, his father would approach him whenever he received his allowance. The parent would then ask the boy for the money to buy him anything he wanted.

However, the father wouldn't buy the boy anything when he went to the store. He would use it to buy his own stuff. OP explained that since her son was still too young to drive to the store, and because she also works long hours and couldn't be there for him when he needed to buy his stuff, her husband was left in charge of buying him things.

The father went ahead to call the nurse heartless and financially controlling.

The parent would take the money and lie that he would buy Dorritos for his son and his friends when he went to the supermarket. However, the son never received his snacks. After two months of his father taking his allowance, the boy reported the issue to his mother.

The boy was afraid of reporting sooner because his father had lied to him telling him that if he told his mother, she would get mad. The parent had also told the boy that he would get in trouble if he reported him to his mother.

He promised the boy that he would soon buy him the stuff he needed, but he never did. After her son opened up to her, the nurse decided to confront her husband, which led to a conflict, and the couple disagreed vehemently.

What Happened after the Nurse Told Her Husband She Knew the Truth?

The nurse revealed that when she told her husband she knew the truth, they had a big fight. The father said taking his son's allowance wasn't a big deal. He claimed that 99% of the time he took his son's money, he always bought the boy's stuff.

The father also defended himself by saying that taking the allowance was necessary because he used the cash as gas money to drive to the supermarket to buy whatever their son needed. However, the nurse disagreed with her husband's words, narrating:

"I shamed him for taking advantage of our son and taking the money that was meant for him and said he was acting like a thief but worse when stealing from his own son."

The nurse then told her husband that she wouldn't be giving their son an allowance anymore because, as a father, he was misusing it. She added that from then forward, she would be handling their son's needs.

However, the father couldn't hear any of this. He accused the nurse of overreacting and punishing their son for no reason. OP's husband also added that the nurse was always busy and would have no time to take care of their son's needs.

The nurse, who was by then angry, told her husband that whatever she planned to do was no longer his business. She walked out of the room where they were arguing, but he followed her and told her their son would resent her if she stopped giving him money. The father went ahead to call the nurse heartless and financially controlling. OP narrated her story to people online and asked for advice about what she could do.

What Advice Did Reddit Users Give to OP?

People who saw this story told the nurse that her husband was breaching the trust the couple had towards each other. Some suggested she divorce him, while others urged her to remove the child from the unhealthy situation. Here are the comments:

The nurse told Reddit users that she refused to engage with her husband on the matter anymore because he was guilt-tripping her. However, she didn't tell them which step she had settled on and how she would handle the matter going forward.

If OP's story left you wanting more, here's one of a single mother who was surprised to find money under her son's pillow after the boy put his tooth there.