Mom ‘Genuinely’ Hates Her Pregnant Daughter as She Learns Grandson Will Be Named after Her Dad

A woman never imagined it was possible to experience hatred for her own flesh and blood until her daughter did something that stirred these emotions within her. Struggling with self-disgust and unable to muster the courage to confide in anyone, she turned to Reddit to share her dilemma.

In August 2022, an anonymous woman shared her story in the "True Off My Chest" subreddit. She recounted a difficult past in which she had been in an abusive marriage when she was pretty young. Her spouse had kept her isolated in their home, subjecting her to regular mistreatment.

One day, he suddenly left her for another woman—a moment that felt like an answer to her prayers. It marked the first time in 15 years that she had a glimpse of life beyond her home. During their marriage, she had three children: two sons old enough to remember the challenging circumstances and a daughter who was only a toddler.

Why Did the Woman Hate Her Daughter?

Although the woman and her sons tried their best to shield the daughter from the full extent of the truth, she still had some awareness of her father's behavior, although not all the distressing details. Twenty years later, the abusive man, now terminally ill, reached out to his former family, expressing a desire to see his children.

It was at that moment that the mother realized she harbored a deep sense of fear and discomfort towards her daughter.

While the sons chose not to meet him, the daughter decided to visit him. This decision caused significant distress to her brothers, but their mother encouraged them to let her make her own choice. The abusive man passed away six months later.

When the daughter became pregnant and learned she was expecting a boy, she surprised her mother by announcing her intention to name the child after her late father. This revelation left the mother in disbelief, and she pleaded with her daughter not to do so.

However, her daughter remained firm in her decision, expressing that her perception of her father differed from the image held by her mother and brothers, hinting that her mom might have influenced her negatively regarding her father. Feeling helpless and torn, the mother later discovered that her sons had met with her daughter and her husband without her knowledge.

During this meeting, the sons recounted their past experiences, sharing all that they remembered and knew about their father's actions. The daughter's response was disheartening to the mother, as she expressed indifference, stating, "I'm sorry but I don't give a [expletive]. This is NOT my experience with him."

Overwhelmed by a sense of sickness and despair, the last time the mother saw her daughter, she attempted to have a final conversation with her. However, she felt terrified as she saw her abusive ex-husband's traits reflected in her daughter's eyes, evoking memories of her own traumatic experiences from her youth.

It was at that moment that the mother realized she harbored a deep sense of fear and discomfort towards her daughter. Despite the ongoing attempts at communication, including the daughter sending a picture of her and her son, the mother deleted it without even looking at it.

The daughter made multiple calls and sent texts, accusing her mother of turning her brothers against her—an accusation she vehemently denied. Despite the guilt and discomfort she felt, the mother admitted to "genuinely" hating her daughter. "I never thought it's possible and I've not admitted it to anyone because I'm disgusted with myself," she revealed.

Starting Over

In an update shared in October 2022, the woman revealed her decision to cut off contact with her daughter. This decision stemmed from her daughter naming her son after the woman's abusive ex-partner. She even changed her phone number, making it challenging for her daughter to reach her.

The only way her daughter could contact her was by showing up at her place, which she did with her mother-in-law, husband, and baby. During this encounter, the daughter accused her of being a bad mother and grandmother, echoing the rhetoric of the abusive ex-partner.

The woman felt sick and terrified during this confrontation. She didn't want to return to her past traumatic experiences and felt that her daughter's persistence was linked to concerns about inheritance.

Her daughter had believed that being the only one living in town when her sons left home, she could take possession of the house and start her own family. She assumed that the woman would cut her off from her will when she severed contact, which led her to persist in trying to maintain a relationship with her mother.

In the end, the woman decided that she could buy her daughter out of her life, hoping it would bring an end to the conflict and allow her to move forward independently. Despite her sons' disagreement with her decision, she was determined to buy her freedom and relocate to a new city. However, she acknowledged that she needed time to make rational decisions, given her emotional state.

The Online Support

The woman's Reddit account gathered support from fellow Redditors. One commenter noted that they had stumbled upon numerous incidents related to protecting children. Inevitably, these situations could result in harm to the children, pain for the innocent parent, and sometimes, the problematic parent being perceived as a martyr.

The user said they had always placed a high value on honesty with their children, appropriately tailored to their age. They believed that deviating from this approach could render the child susceptible to manipulation.

A second netizen expressed astonishment over the fact that the husband was aware of the situation while the woman remained unaware. A different commenter strongly urged against giving anything to the daughter, characterizing her behavior as monstrous.

Another Redditor cautioned against giving money to the daughter, recommending security measures like changing locks and installing affordable cameras. They stressed not opening the door when she was present and expressed sympathy for the situation while condemning the daughter's behavior.

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