My Daughter Has Kept a ‘Dark Secret’ from Her Partner – I Have to Expose It to Him before They Marry

One father found himself between a rock and a hard place when his daughter refused to confess her mental health diagnosis to her boyfriend before their relationship became more serious. Her condition is something she might not be able to hide from her boyfriend forever.

A Reddit user named Pause69 contacted others on the platform seeking advice over a difficult personal situation. The man revealed he is a father to a 25-year-old woman he loves very much.

The pair have a great relationship, and he enjoys spending time with her, but people don't know that she is a diagnosed sociopath. When his daughter was younger, he noticed her odd behavior, including her struggles during elementary school.

She got in trouble at school for lying, cruelty, and misbehavior. After a severe abuse incident against her younger sister, the parent took her in for professional help, and the bad behavior dissipated over the years with excessive therapy and support.

When she turned 18, she was diagnosed with ASPD, a condition her father had previously suspected. Since learning to tame her aggressiveness, Pause69's daughter became law abiding, got a good job and education, plus solid friendships and love interests.

The poster's daughter is charming and great at attracting young men and keeping them interested. The young woman is doing so well that she's drawn in a guy who is in love with her. The dad stated

"She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who's crazy about her. He is a great guy, very kind, funny, and intelligent."

The woman's father also had a great relationship with the boyfriend and spent time together regularly. The problem is that Pause69 doubts his daughter loves her boyfriend because, during honest conversations about her mental health and diagnosis, the young woman admitted to not feeling love or empathy for anyone, including family.

For instance, when a close friend passed on, Pause69's daughter acted sad and torn up over their death during the funeral. However, she confessed to her father that it was all an act because she actually felt "pretty neutral" about losing her friend.

The man's child also never felt guilty about her actions and didn't know what guilt felt like. However, she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is even sexually attracted to him, but her father doubts she loves him.

The woman's boyfriend might be proposing soon but has no idea about her diagnosis, and she's confessed to her father that she has no intention of doing so because she worries it will scare him away.

Pause69 has been adamant that his daughter tell her boyfriend the truth before they marry as he has the right to know. If she doesn't, he will out her. She, however, believes her dad would do no such thing and has even told him:

"I know you wouldn't dare."

The Reddit user is willing to go against her wishes because he likes and respects her boyfriend, and keeping his daughter's secret feels awful. Pause69 explained he isn't trying to sabotage his daughter's future.

The commenter felt the Reddit poster had to allow his daughter to tell her story and leave his "bromance at the door."

He knew it was possible her boyfriend loved her enough and that other aspects would make him stick with the relationship. The poster felt his daughter's boyfriend deserved all the facts on the table because one day he'll discover that she's slightly off and her secret would be out.

In conclusion, Pause69 wishes to know if he is the wrong person for wanting to expose his daughter's "dark secret" before they tie the knot. Reddit users quickly gave their opinions on the matter.

What Did Reddit Users Think of the Poster's Dilemma?

Reddit users saw the dilemma Pause69 was in, with one person noting that the father's position was "tough." The commenter said the parent wasn't wrong in this situation, and they would want to know such a big thing before marrying their partner.

The reader also shared that the father wasn't without any guilt for wanting to out his daughter, but since it was for the greater good, he was allowed. A second reader said they didn't envy Pause69's position but that the young woman's boyfriend deserved to know the truth. They added:

"They are happy now - at least he is, but it's grossly unfair to stand by and allow him to propose and her to marry him if he doesn't know the truth."

A third person brought a different outlook on the situation by revealing they have a friend who is happily married to a sociopath. The Reddit user noted how it can happen, but that going into a marriage, knowing what to expect helped a lot.

A fourth person felt the man's daughter should decide whether to tell her boyfriend or not. The reader said it sounded like Pause69's daughter has complete "faith and trust" in him, and he needed to give her a chance to do the right thing.

The commenter felt the Reddit poster had to allow his daughter to tell her story and leave his "bromance at the door."

What do you think of the situation? Does the original poster have the right to tell his daughter's boyfriend about her diagnosis? What should he do since she's adamant about keeping her condition a secret?

Click here to read some netizen's darkest secrets like someone who discovered their aunt married a man who was set to tie the knot with the aunt's sibling.