8 Hardest Decisions People Have Ever Made in Their Lives

In the grand symphony of existence, people often find themselves standing at a crossroads, grappling with decisions that echo through the corridors of time. From career-defining crossroads to the intricate complexities of relationships, these stories encapsulate the essence of the human struggle.

Making life decisions can be daunting, and it is not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by the process. People often experience a range of emotions when making difficult decisions, such as anxiety, fear, and uncertainty. These feelings can be compounded by the potential consequences of the decision, which can lead to stress and indecisiveness.

Some of our life-altering decisions can leave a lasting impression on our minds and hearts. Even after years have passed, these decisions can continue to resonate with us, reminding us how far we have come. Here are eight stories of people who have shared their experiences of making some of the hardest decisions of their lives.

1. The Hardest Goodbye

A Redditor narrated the most challenging moral decision of their life. Following two cardiac arrest events and subsequent resuscitations, they found themselves compelled to terminate life support for their 12-day-old daughter.

Although leaving these cherished companions seemed challenging, the Redditor understood it was essential for their personal growth and well-being.

The options presented were a prolonged duration of pain or allowing their daughter to pass with love and grace. In their arms, their child took her final breath. With every passing day, the Redditor continued to feel the aching void left behind by their baby girl, who would have turned 14 in 2016.

2. A Strange Favor

Another Redditor faced a moral dilemma centered around the most challenging decision of their life. They had a temporary assistant who demonstrated remarkable abilities but struggled to pass the typing test administered by HR for full-time employment.

Despite two failed attempts out of three, the Redditor devised a pretext to speak privately with the HR representative, allowing them to encourage the assistant. Seizing the opportunity, the Redditor closed the door, sat at the computer, and completed the typing test on her behalf — enough to secure a passing grade.

This ethical choice continued to be a source of inner conflict for the Redditor. After she was eventually hired, the Redditor remained committed to mentoring her, considering her challenging background as a single mom from less-than-ideal circumstances. Over the years, she flourished within the company, achieving multiple promotions.

Upon the Redditor's departure from the company, she reached out years later to express her gratitude, revealing that the initial assistance had propelled her from a desperate situation to eventually graduating from college with honors. She had ascended to an executive role, mentoring her own assistant.

3. A Painful Choice

This Redditor faced a formidable moral decision when they decided to ask their mother to leave their first apartment. "It was very hard, but it was necessary," they explained. Describing their mom as someone with harmful tendencies and a draining influence, they acknowledged the mistake of initially allowing her to live with them.

Despite the challenging circumstances, the mother later told the Redditor that the decision to part ways was, unexpectedly, the best thing anyone could have done for her.

4. No Regrets

Another Redditor faced the most challenging decision when they decided to part ways with their closest friends while growing up in a financially struggling town. Despite the strong bonds formed, they recognized that staying with their friends could lead to making detrimental choices, such as involving themselves in drugs, relationships with negative influences, early parenthood, and premature marriages.

Although leaving these cherished companions seemed challenging, the Redditor understood it was essential for their personal growth and well-being. This choice, however, came with a heavy emotional toll, feeling as though they were repaying their friends' loyalty and camaraderie with an act of betrayal. "Would I do it over again? In a heartbeat. Too many things I need to do and see to let them drag me down," added the Redditor.

5. A Soul-Crushing Lie

This Redditor found themselves faced with the most challenging moral decision of their life: lying to their parents about the passing of their grandmother. Given that their parents had not taken a vacation in three decades and their grandma had reached the age of 95, the family decided to withhold the news until the conclusion of the parents' cruise, with only five days remaining.

During this time, the Redditor and their family discreetly planned the funeral, agreeing to make any adjustments upon their mother's return. Recognizing that their parents could not cut their trip short, the Redditor, who worked alongside their father, had to maintain a facade of normalcy every day during their check-ins. This task proved to be the most difficult they had ever undertaken.

6. Keeping the Family Together

Another Redditor confronted the most difficult moral decision of their life when their mother inquired about any instances of infidelity on their father's part. Despite having clear evidence, including pictures on his digital camera, they chose to deny knowledge and assured their mother that it was merely her imagination. They advised against making assumptions without concrete evidence.

"The lies I told my mom when I was younger still [haunt] me to this day," expressed the Redditor. Seeking solace, they reminded themselves that they were very young at the time and felt desperate to preserve the family unit.

As of June 2021, their parents were married and content, which provided some comfort. Nevertheless, the lingering question of what might have transpired had the Redditor not lied continued to occupy their thoughts.

7. A Questionable Job Offer

This Redditor grappled with the hardest moral decision of their life — whether to accept a consulting job for an organization actively making the world worse. Ultimately, they opted to undertake the work, driven by the stark realization that rejecting the job would have resulted in losing employment and health insurance.

8. Choosing Life & Joy

At 20, a woman found herself trapped in a tumultuous relationship, grappling with an agonizing moral decision — whether to stay with a partner who appeared to love her or to undergo an abortion to prevent him from leaving.

The circumstances were further complicated by an unplanned pregnancy, a consequence of her boyfriend's refusal to use protection. The woman already had a one-year-old daughter whom he resented, and the news of another impending child intensified the strain.

Despite her desire to embrace the pregnancy and affirm the shared responsibility for the unborn child, her boyfriend vehemently rejected the idea. Days later, he secretly drove her to an abortion clinic at the Mall of America, blindsiding her with the revelation. Distraught and feeling trapped, she reluctantly entered the clinic, compelled by the fear of abandonment.

Once inside, a nurse intervened, ensuring her boyfriend remained seated and providing a momentary reprieve. The subsequent interaction with a compassionate doctor exposed the deceit and manipulation. When an ultrasound revealed the pregnancy was beyond the clinic's service capabilities, the doctor feigned an inability to provide further assistance, leaving the couple without the services they sought.

Despite the painful ordeal and the subsequent departure of her boyfriend, the woman ultimately embraced motherhood. She found solace in a supportive partner who played a crucial role in her children's lives. A planned pregnancy with her husband brought joy years later and starkly contrasted the challenging choices she had faced earlier in life.

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