My Mother-in-Law Demands over $200 from Me for Cleaning My Home — But I Never Asked Her to Do It

While a couple was in the hospital awaiting their baby's arrival, they received a helping hand from the woman's mother-in-law. She volunteered to feed their dogs—a gesture the pair deeply appreciated. But upon their return, they found a note stuck to their fridge, whose contents left them dumbfounded.

On October 9, 2023, an anonymous woman took to the "AITA" subreddit to share her bewildering experience. The woman, aged 31, welcomed her beautiful son into the world a week ago despite complications that kept her in the hospital until October 8.

Grateful to be back home with their newborn, she reflected on the unexpected turn of events. When her waters broke, she and her husband, aged 33, were at home, not thinking about cleaning. In a rush to the hospital, she simply threw some towels down on the bedroom carpet and left.

A Sweet Gesture or Something Else?

During their time in the hospital, the woman's mother-in-law, aged 59, graciously offered to feed their dogs, a gesture the couple truly appreciated. However, upon their return home, the woman discovered a note and receipt on the fridge. To her surprise, her mother-in-law had taken it upon herself to clean not just the bedroom carpet but the entire house.

Overwhelmed by the influx of messages, OP decided to turn off her phone, seeking respite from the situation.

The note detailed the cleaning expenses, including a day's labor at $25 per hour and $200 worth of cleaning products, leaving the woman utterly shocked by this unexpected demand for reimbursement. "Now, while it was nice of her to clean my carpet and then the rest of my house, neither of us asked her to do this," she added.

What Did OP's Husband Do?

In response to the unexpected demand, the original poster's husband took the initiative to address the situation. He wrote a text to his mother, expressing their gratitude for her assistance during the hospital stay. However, he couldn't help but voice his concerns about her actions:

"Hello mom, we really appreciate your help over the last few days while [my wife] was in the hospital. It was great having someone over to look after the dogs."

The man wrote that he and his wife had stumbled upon the note and receipt stuck to the fridge. What surprised them was that the MIL had taken it upon herself to snoop through their house, as neither of them had informed her about OP's water breaking in the bedroom.

Secondly, the pair was also baffled to learn that the mother-in-law had purchased hundreds of dollars worth of cleaning products and was demanding money for both them and her time cleaning the house. They also wanted to know where these cleaning items were, expecting to get their money's worth since they were expected to pay for them.

"When we entrusted you with the dogs, we really thought you were helping us out of the good of your heart and not giving you an opportunity to make a quick buck. We are family, and are hurt you would do something like this while [my wife] was so unwell," concluded the husband.

The MIL's Reaction

Upon receiving her husband's message, the mother-in-law immediately responded, insisting that her actions had stemmed from kindness and she couldn't fathom their ingratitude. The woman also received texts from extended family members praising the MIL's efforts despite her advanced age, highlighting her assistance as a gesture of love.

Overwhelmed by the influx of messages, OP decided to turn off her phone, seeking respite from the situation. Meanwhile, her husband continued to face criticism from their family, accused of manipulating the situation and unfairly portraying the MIL as the villain, despite her intention to prepare the house for the baby.

Feeling deeply upset by the entire situation, the woman found herself at odds with her husband's suggestion. He proposed paying his mother to quell the extended family's criticism and allow them to focus on their new roles as parents. However, the woman staunchly opposed the idea of compensating his mother for her actions.

Amidst the turmoil, the mother-in-law sent another text to the couple, expressing a willingness to gift them the cleaning products, effectively removing that expense from their bill. Despite this gesture, she still insisted on being paid for her time, citing the cleaning process as dealing with "a biohazard."

The woman found herself caught between her husband's desire for peace and her reluctance to concede, torn between family harmony and her principles. "AITA for refusing to pay my MIL?" she wondered.

What Do Redditors Think?

What do you think about this story? Was OP right not to pay her MIL, or should she have done so since the latter claimed to have cleaned the house out of the goodness of her heart? Click here to read another story about a woman who kicked her mother-in-law out of the house at night following her babysitting her three kids.

Do you think this mother-in-law is the worst? Here’s an even more shocking story: a woman kicked her mother-in-law out of the house at night because of her actions!

On July 31, 2022, an anonymous female poster turned to the widely popular "AITA" subreddit to share her story. The woman's mother-in-law was supposed to arrive at 6 p.m. on a Friday to babysit her three children: 12-year-old twin girls and a nine-year-old boy.

However, she showed up an hour late, at 7 p.m. The children's bedtime was at 8 p.m., meaning they were only awake and active for an hour while she was there. Despite this, the narrator paid her $150 for her babysitting services.

What Transpired in the Woman's Absence?

Upon returning home, the original poster discovered a series of unsettling events. Her MIL was found sleeping on the couch—a usual practice when she babysat overnight. However, the house was in disarray. The narrator's bedroom had been rummaged through, and personal computer files, which contained intimate photos of both the woman and her spouse, were left open.

Not buying her mother-in-law's version of the story, OP remained adamant about telling her to exit the house.

This intrusion was particularly distressing to the woman. Additionally, her mother-in-law had violated rules, such as letting the dog sleep on the bed (a breach of the no dogs on the bed policy) and leaving garbage scattered around the living room.

The bathroom was also in chaos, with clean towels strewn in the bathtub. Most concerning was the MIL's unauthorized access to OP's office, where she was said to have gone through the computer files. "The ONLY thing I really had a problem with was my computer. Everything else was the icing on the cake," noted the enraged woman.

"Like why are you going through my computer files?? I have personal info in there (contracts with clients) and again, intimate photos of both me and my husband. And we have a strict no one allowed in our office rule because of this," expressed OP. Unable to control herself, the woman woke up her MIL and asked her to leave.

Her husband, shocked and embarrassed about the situation, supported the decision to send his mother away. When confronted about the invasion of privacy, the mother-in-law claimed she was looking for solitaire, a flimsy excuse considering she had delved deep into specific files marked "intimate" and "personal."

Not buying her mother-in-law's version of the story, OP remained adamant about telling her to exit the house. "She [MIL] starts freaking out, saying she will just leave in the AM and I say no, now," explained the anonymous narrator.

After being kicked out of the house, the woman received angry texts and voicemails from her mother-in-law. Besides defending her actions, MIL suggested that her daughter-in-law should have put a lock on her computer if she didn't want people going through her personal files.

OP concluded her account by sharing that her computer was secured with a password, but it was her husband's birthday, which didn't seem too difficult for her MIL to hack. She also asked the Reddit community if she was in the wrong for turning her husband's mom out in the middle of the night.

The Online Reaction

After sharing her story on Reddit, the consensus among the commenters was unanimous: the woman was not at fault (NTA). Redditors strongly condemned the mother-in-law's behavior, deeming it utterly inappropriate and disrespectful.

They emphasized the MIL's severe breach of trust, invasion of privacy, and disregard for house rules, including leaving the dog unsupervised and rummaging through personal belongings. Commenters expressed support for the narrator's decision to ask the MIL to leave and even suggested future childcare arrangements, like having the MIL watch the children in her own home.

What do you think about this story? How would you react if you were in OP's place? Was OP right to kick her MIL out, or should she have forgiven her for rummaging through her personal items?

Click here to read another story about a woman who suspected her mother-in-law of snooping in her bedroom, so she used a pregnancy test to catch her.