Janet Jackson reveals new details about her failed relationships

Claudine Varela
Jun 21, 2018
02:38 A.M.

In an open letter she penned for the latest issue of Essence, Janet reveals decades of struggling with a low self-esteem and why she blamed herself for the demise of her marriages.


Janet Jackson is in cloud nine these days, thanks to her well-received four-decade career and the birth of her first child. But the actress recently revealed her journey to happiness was long and riddled with bouts of depression and a constant struggle with her self-esteem, one that essentially left her blaming herself for all her failed relationships.


Gracing the cover of Essence magazine, Janet opened up about her challenging years in her 30’s struggling with a low self-esteem which she developed as early as her childhood.

“These were difficult years when I struggled with depression. The struggle was intense. I could analyze the source of my depression forever. Low self-esteem might be rooted in childhood feelings of inferiority. It could relate to failing to meet impossibly high standards. And of course, there are always the societal issues of racism and sexism. Put it all together and depression is a tenacious and scary condition. Thankfully, I found my way through it…”


By the time she reached her forties, not much had changed according to the singer who by then already had been through several failed relationships. She annulled her one-year marriage to singer James DeBarge in 1985. In 2000, she divorced Rene Elizondo Jr., her husband of nine years. From 2002-2009, she dated music producer and rapper Jermaine Dupri but that didn’t make the cut too.

With the constant failure in her personal life, she began to doubt herself even more and blame herself for not getting her relationships right.

“In my forties: Like millions of women in the world, I still heard voices inside my head berating me, voices questioning my value. Happiness was elusive. A reunion with old friends might make me happy. A call from a colleague might make me happy. But because sometimes I saw my failed relationships as my fault, I easily fell into despair.”


It was in her fifties that Janet’s life made a positive turn. She welcomed her first child, son Eissa Al Mana, and she found joy. Though she divorced Eissa’s father Wissam Al Mana just four months after his birth, Janet remained steadfast and blissful. The 52-year-old confessed her son brought pure happiness into her life and she’s now seeing it everywhere.

“The height of happiness is holding my baby son in my arms and hearing him coo, or when I look into his smiling eyes and watch him respond to my tenderness,” Jackson shares. “When I kiss him. When I sing him softly to sleep. During those sacred times, happiness is everywhere. Happiness is in gratitude to God. Happiness is saying, ‘Thank you, God, for my life, my energy and my capacity to grow in love.’”


In May, Janet received the highest honor at the Billboard Music Awards, the Icon, making her the first black woman to receive the coveted award. The singer took the stage and entertained guests who came to celebrate her four-decade-career. She gave a powerhouse performance of her greatest hits, proving she still has what it takes after all these years.

Please fill in your e-mail so we can share with you our top stories!
By subscribing, you agree to our Privacy Policy
Related posts

Single Mom Gives Son up for Adoption to Save Him from Poverty, Holds Him in Her Arms Again in 18 Years

March 31, 2022

Jamie Lee Curtis Was ‘The Product of 13 Divorces’ Who Was Raised in a ‘House of Hatred'

March 01, 2022

Gwen Stefani Found True Love with Blake Shelton after She Faced Infidelity

January 27, 2022

Celine Dion's Spouse 'Started to Cry' during Their 1st Meeting — Her Mom Was against Their Marriage

May 12, 2022

Marion Ross Found Love at 60 - She Never Married Her Companion of 23 Years after Divorce

March 07, 2022

Mandy Moore Overcame Marriage That Left Her 'Curled up in a Ball on the Floor' to Have 'Big Love' & Kids

May 11, 2022

Heather Locklear’s First & Final Love Saved Her from Downward Spiral Following Her 2 Broken Marriages

March 08, 2022

Mariska Hargitay & Her Husband Are Happily Married for 18 Years after He Made Her Cry on Their First Date

January 31, 2022

Brooke Shields ‘Was About Ready’ to Stay Childless After Years of Tries - Today She Is a Mother of 2

March 02, 2022

'You Don't Yell at Her': Three Kids Happy for Mom's New Husband after Living with Abusive Dad

March 11, 2022

Virgin until 29, Tamera Mowry Once Broke up with Husband & Dated Others while Staying Celibate

February 25, 2022

Man Sees His Late Girlfriend’s Mother with Toddler in Her Arms and Runs Away from His Wedding – Story of the Day

February 23, 2022

Every Day Old Lady Sees Lonely Barefoot Triplets Fishing in a Pond and Follows Them — Story of the Day

April 08, 2022

Tika Sumpter Weds Co-star Husband after She 'Tamed His Ego' & Hid Her Pregnancy for 7 Months

May 18, 2022