The story of a man: why I betrayed my wife after 32 years of marriage

Dear AmoMama,

I've been reading some of these stories on my wife's Facebook, and frankly, I'm tired of hearing you women moaning about men who cheat.

Have you ever asked your selves why? All you ever say is how wonderful you all are, and how hard you work and raise the children, bla bla bla.

If you are so wonderful, why do your husbands screw around? Ask yourselves that! Men who get what they need at home don't stray.

I have been married for 32 years, and frankly, after the first 12 years, things started going downhill, but I loved her, and I loved our kids ao I just buckled down and tried harder.

The funny part is that I still love her, in a way. I love who she was, the sweet and funny girl who'd make love under the stars, and kissed me when I got home.

Over the years wife became more and more demanding and developed a negative mindset that drives me crazy. Anything that does not go exactly as planned (by her) erupts into a scene of hysterics.

Kissing is not something we do anymore, and I can't remember when we last held hands or did anything together, for fun, as a couple. We have duty-sex -I don't call it making love - maybe once a month. My wife is proud of being a dutiful woman, but I became lonelier and lonelier.

A year ago, I noticed this lady who works at a café near my work - my age, and curiously enough not as pretty as my wife. But she does have this wonderful smile, and every time I walked in I felt alive. So one thing led to another. We became lovers, and she makes me happy. Yes, ladies, we have sex - we make crazy love like we're kids, and then we lie in bed for hours just talking, and then I go home to my wife.

Do I feel guilty? NO! This woman takes a part of me my wife no longer wants, and we make each other happy. Am I going to leave my wife? Probably not. When it gets too much for me, I go to my lover and she makes me feel good about myself, and my life.

So there you have it. I'm a cheater, and I love it, and I don't plan on giving up my lover for my perfect wife.

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