Alyssa Pearce wrote an invitation to “uninvite” her parents to her wedding after she was bullied by her family to include them in the ceremony.
Pearce, then 23-years-old, from Adelaide, Australia, shared a photo of the letter on Reddit in February 2015, before her wedding to Alex, then 28.
Pearce told BuzzFeed News that she had experienced “physical, emotional, and sexual abuse” at the hands of her parents when she lived at her family home with them.
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She shared that parents are people who love and cherish their children but, she claimed, what she received from them was the exact opposite.
In the process of getting her Ph.D. in applied linguistics in 2015, Pearce said that she was motivated to write the invitation when a family member kept on pestering her to invite her parents.
She “snapped,” after that and came home and wrote the letter.
She opened the Word document, selected the most beautiful calligraphy that was available, switched on the printer and chose the special parchment paper from her wedding invitations and wrote the message.
She added that she also found an envelope that went well with the paper and used a cool gold pen to address her parents after which she posted the letter.
The invitation read, “Together with our friends and family, Alex and Alyssa would like to invite you to suck it and bask in our happiness, your bitterness and our mutual irritation at each other's existence… as we completely ignore yours and celebrate our marriage without you.”
She added that there would be “a lovely ceremony, followed by cake, food and general merriment.” However, her parents were not “invited to any of it.”
Meredith Parnell Kavanaugh, however, was someone who shared a strong bond with her parents.
She did a wedding dance with her father even though she was still single at the time because she wanted her terminally ill father to experience the special occasion before he passed away.
Kavanaugh posted the emotional video on Facebook in which she is seen wearing a wedding dress and dancing with her father, who would not live long enough to witness her wedding.
She decided to share the video after she got married in January this year, three years after her father's death, to commemorate the beautiful memories of her father.
Another soon-to-bride shared her dilemma regarding her wedding after her father refused to attend it because her fiancé was black.
The woman was shocked that such things still exist in the society. Though people don't talk about such issues, they have a completely different reaction when they face something themselves, according to her.
Her parents live in Minnesota, while she lived in Chicago and had been telling her parents about 'Charles' for a long time.
But when the couple visited her parents’ home on the July 4, she was shocked to see her their reaction.
Her father did not hide his disdain towards 'Charles,' and her mother was just trying to cover her husband's behavior by pretending to be sweet and charming towards him.
On the one hand, she wanted to cancel her big wedding and just get married in a courthouse. But on the other hand, she also felt guilty because canceling it would not be fair to her fiancé or his family.