'There are times when you want to push him out of the window,' Michelle Obama on marriage

Aby Rivas
Dec 26, 2018
01:04 A.M.
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As part of the promotional tour for her book “Becoming,” Michelle Obama has been getting candid about her personal life, including her marriage to Barack Obama. She is encouraging couples to seek counseling and don’t be ashamed of it, revealing that she and Barack had to go through it too.


Michelle Obama can make a crowd cheer and clap every five seconds with her words. She can also make them laugh with her honest approach and easy-going banter from the stage, as she has proved in the past months while visiting several cities across the U.S to promote her new memoir book.


Talking to sold-out auditoriums, mostly packed with women, the former first lady has opened about several aspects of her life, including her far-from-perfect marriage to former president Barack Obama.


On her visit to Brooklyn’s Barclays Center, Michelle confessed to Sarah Jessica Parker and the audience that marriage is not a smooth ride on the park and she always makes sure to let young people know that.


“For all the couples that look to Barack and I with those hashtag Relationship Goals, I want to share that truth. Too many young people quit because nobody ever told them, ‘No, this is what marriage is. This is how it works,’ she started.

And continued:

“For you to get to 30 years and 40 and 50, there are times when you want to push him out the window. Now, you don’t do it, but you dream, as you’re cleaning the toilet. Just push him, not out of a high window — a low one. Don’t want him to get hurt, because I want him in here cleaning this toilet tomorrow.”



Michelle and Barack met when she was assigned as his mentor at the law firm Sidley & Austin in Chicago. She wasn’t attracted to him at first, but after he asked her on a date, Michelle “allowed” herself to be vowed by the man who was three years older but was still studying law at Harvard.

They married in 1993, and after some hardship to conceive kids, as she revealed on her book, they were able to bring daughters Malia and Sasha into the world through in vitro fertilization.


Michelle confessed that, by the time her husband was elected to the Illinois Senate, he was spending too much time away from home, what created a gap in their relationship that they were only able to fix after going through marriage’s counseling.


However, Obama recently revealed on Jimmy Fallon’s “The Tonight Show,” that she didn’t fully understand the function of counseling at first. “The thing about marriage counseling is, I was one of those wives who [thought], ‘I’m taking you to marriage counseling – so you can be fixed, Barack Obama,’” she recalled. “Because I was like, ‘I’m perfect.’ I was like, ‘Dr. X, please fix him.’”


She continued: “And then our counselor looked over at me. I was like, ‘What are you looking at? I’m perfect.’”

The mother of two then realized through counseling that it wasn’t her husband’s responsibility to make her happy, it was all up to her. “I had to learn how to fill myself up and have to put myself up higher on my priority list,” she stated.

Now, the former presidential couple keeps on taking over the world in a different way. They are still the people’s favorite and wherever they go, they carry joy and love with them.