Mormon mother-of-six offers her own recipe to reduce abortions in the US, slamming men
A mother of 6 shines a new and controversial light on unwanted pregnancies and abortions - and blames men for both.
Best-selling author Gabrielle Blair has astounded social media by sharing her views on contraception, abortion, and men.
The 44-year-old mother of six places the blame for all unwanted and unplanned pregnancies squarely on men and says women's sexual pleasure does not lead to conception.
Let’s talk more about responsibility. Men often don’t know, and don’t ask, and don’t think to ask, if they’ve caused a pregnancy. They may never think of it, or associate sex with making babies at all. Why? Because there are 0 consequences for men who cause unwanted pregnancies.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
“Women enjoying sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men enjoying sex and having irresponsible ejaculations is what causes unwanted pregnancies and abortion.”
GABRIELLE BLAIR: PREGNANCIES ARE CAUSED BY IRRESPONSIBLE EJACULATIONS
Blair highlights the current trend for "stealthing." In "stealthing" a man will remove his condom discreetly without his partner's knowledge.
Blair describes this as sexual assault and carried out simply to enhance masculine pleasure in orgasm. Of course, this places his parner at risk of an unwanted pregnancy, or of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
Oh. I remember. Men _don’t_ love condoms. In fact, men frequently pressure women to have sex without a condom. And it’s not unheard of for men to remove the condom during sex, without the women’s permission or knowledge. (Pro-tip: That's assault.) https://t.co/c2HHjkbx6G— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
The weight of an unplanned pregnancy falls exclusively on the woman, and the man is exempted from any of the crushing, life-altering consequences.
MALE CONTRACEPTION ABANDONED BECAUSE OF "SIDE EFFECTS"
Blair points out that the research into a male contraceptive pill was abandoned because of the side effects - even though these were minor compared to the side effects affecting women on the Pill.
I’m just saying women's birth control isn’t simple or easy. In contrast, let’s look at birth control for men, meaning condoms. Condoms are readily available at all hours, inexpensive, convenient, and don’t require a prescription. They’re effective, and work on demand, instantly.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
CURBING MALE FERTILITY IS THE ANSWER
Blair states the obvious: women can only get pregnant about 2 days each month, for a limited number of years, from puberty to menopause.
A man can impregnate a woman 365 days a year or even several women a day - from puberty until the day he dies. For Blair, placing the responsibility for unwanted pregnancies on men makes sense.
If you want to stop abortion, you need to prevent unwanted pregnancies. And men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies. No for real, they are. Perhaps you are thinking: IT TAKES TWO! And yes, it does take two for _intentional_ pregnancies.— Gabrielle Blair (@designmom) September 13, 2018
MAKING BIRTH CONTROL A MALE RESPONSIBILITY
With the Trump administration planning to cut funding to Planned Parenthood, many women will have growing difficulty in affording contraception - and since men are reluctant to use condoms, a predictable rise in unplanned pregnancies can be expected.
Of course, the weight of an unplanned pregnancy falls exclusively on the woman, and the man is exempted from any of the crushing, life-altering consequences.
The debate that Blair has sparked may end up having far-reaching effects on sexual politics and may see men facing the consequences of those "irresponsible ejaculations" for the first time in history.
This. Is. Huge.@NYGovCuomo JUST signed the Reproductive Health Act into law — a big win towards securing safe, legal abortion & access to contraception for all!— Planned Parenthood Action (@PPact) January 23, 2019
Can't wait to see other states follow New York's lead to protect our health and rights. 😎 https://t.co/1nH9fnIJDK
A MOTHER'S VIEW ON LATE TERM ABORTION
When Dina ZirlottI was 17, she was raped. The traumatic experience would prove to have far-reaching effects in her life.
It was months after the attack that she discovered that she was pregnant. She confided in her mother who took her to a gynecologist where she was submitted to the usual tests and ultrasounds.
ZirlottI's doctor revealed that her baby suffered from hydranencephaly, a congenital defect in which the brain fails to develop either cerebral hemisphere. The baby would be born blind, deaf, cognitively stunted, prone to seizures, diabetes insipidus, insomnia, and hypothermia. The doctor described her condition as "not compatible with life", but ZirlottI's was too far along in her pregnancy for a termination to be an option.
"If I had been allowed the option to choose a ‘late-term abortion,’ would I? Yes. A hundred times over, yes. It would have been a kindness. Zoe would not have had to endure so much pain in the briefness of her life.... Perhaps I could have been spared as well."
ZirlottI's baby, Zoe Lily, lived through a year of agony, constant seizures and suffering. She died in her mother's arms, and her short life was spent in pain. ZirlottI, who has since had more children, declares that a late-term abortion would have been a mercy, and spared her tiny daughter untold suffering.
In a related story, New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo signs a bill legalizing abortions after 24 weeks in specific cases.