February 19, 2019
A mother of 6 shines a new and controversial light on unwanted pregnancies and abortions - and blames men for both.
Best-selling author Gabrielle Blair has astounded social media by sharing her views on contraception, abortion, and men.
The 44-year-old mother of six places the blame for all unwanted and unplanned pregnancies squarely on men and says women's sexual pleasure does not lead to conception.
“Women enjoying sex does not equal unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Men enjoying sex and having irresponsible ejaculations is what causes unwanted pregnancies and abortion.”
Blair highlights the current trend for "stealthing." In "stealthing" a man will remove his condom discreetly without his partner's knowledge.
Blair describes this as sexual assault and carried out simply to enhance masculine pleasure in orgasm. Of course, this places his parner at risk of an unwanted pregnancy, or of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
The weight of an unplanned pregnancy falls exclusively on the woman, and the man is exempted from any of the crushing, life-altering consequences.
Blair points out that the research into a male contraceptive pill was abandoned because of the side effects - even though these were minor compared to the side effects affecting women on the Pill.
Blair states the obvious: women can only get pregnant about 2 days each month, for a limited number of years, from puberty to menopause.
A man can impregnate a woman 365 days a year or even several women a day - from puberty until the day he dies. For Blair, placing the responsibility for unwanted pregnancies on men makes sense.
With the Trump administration planning to cut funding to Planned Parenthood, many women will have growing difficulty in affording contraception - and since men are reluctant to use condoms, a predictable rise in unplanned pregnancies can be expected.
Of course, the weight of an unplanned pregnancy falls exclusively on the woman, and the man is exempted from any of the crushing, life-altering consequences.
The debate that Blair has sparked may end up having far-reaching effects on sexual politics and may see men facing the consequences of those "irresponsible ejaculations" for the first time in history.
When Dina ZirlottI was 17, she was raped. The traumatic experience would prove to have far-reaching effects in her life.
It was months after the attack that she discovered that she was pregnant. She confided in her mother who took her to a gynecologist where she was submitted to the usual tests and ultrasounds.
ZirlottI's doctor revealed that her baby suffered from hydranencephaly, a congenital defect in which the brain fails to develop either cerebral hemisphere. The baby would be born blind, deaf, cognitively stunted, prone to seizures, diabetes insipidus, insomnia, and hypothermia. The doctor described her condition as "not compatible with life", but ZirlottI's was too far along in her pregnancy for a termination to be an option.
"If I had been allowed the option to choose a ‘late-term abortion,’ would I? Yes. A hundred times over, yes. It would have been a kindness. Zoe would not have had to endure so much pain in the briefness of her life.... Perhaps I could have been spared as well."
ZirlottI's baby, Zoe Lily, lived through a year of agony, constant seizures and suffering. She died in her mother's arms, and her short life was spent in pain. ZirlottI, who has since had more children, declares that a late-term abortion would have been a mercy, and spared her tiny daughter untold suffering.
In a related story, New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo signs a bill legalizing abortions after 24 weeks in specific cases.