Michelle Obama Reveals You 'Might Go for Years When You Won’t like Your Husband'

Odette Odendaal
May 06, 2019
02:10 P.M.
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During Michelle Obama’s appearance in Montreal for her book tour on Friday, she gave advice on marriage during a candid and humorous discussion about struggles she faced with Barack Obama over the years.


The event held at the Bell Centre had the largest turnout on tour so far, as the moderator for the evening and Barack’s former senior advisor, Valerie Jarrett, pointed out at the beginning of the evening.


To get things going, Valerie read several questions sent in via Twitter while she added a few questions of her own on this 30th stop on Michelle’s book tour.

Even though the former first lady’s memoir “Becoming” only got released in November last year, it became the best-selling book of 2018 with over 10 million copies sold worldwide.


Within its pages, Michelle Obama shared intricate details of her life from childhood until she became the first lady of the United States and had a simple message for the sold-out crowd in Montreal.

She asked those present not to look at life as a finite journey, but rather as a series of valleys and dips, including marriage.

“I tell young people who are about to get married: You might go for years … years when you won’t like your husband,” Michelle said.


Speaking from experience, the former first lady had previously elaborated on how she thought that marriage counseling would “fix” Barack when they first decided to go to therapy.

"I was one of those wives who thought, 'I'm taking you to marriage counseling so you can be fixed, Barack Obama.' Because I was like, 'I'm perfect.' I was like, 'Dr. X, please fix him,'" she said on the “Tonight Show” in December last year.


But for Michelle, marriage counseling was a “turning point” in her perspective as she realized it's not up to someone else to make her happy.

“I needed to figure out how to build my life in a way that works for me,” she told Oprah in November last year.


Two things that often jolt couples out of sync is the preconceived idea that your partner completes you and will share everything with you, while the very thing that attracted you to your partner, to begin with now drives you crazy.

So when reality sets in, you realize that a lifetime of learning in how to live with the person you chose lies ahead. A lifetime with a person that has different wants and needs than your own. A relationship that requires honesty, vulnerability, and massive amounts of compromise on a continual basis.


During Michelle Obama’s stop in Austin, Texas, earlier this year she also warned that people shouldn’t hold up her and Barack’s relationship, “I don’t think it’s fair for young people out there trying to build families or relationships to look at us and think ‘Woah, they really figured it out.’ No, no. It’s hard. It’s hard for everyone,” she explained.

However, during question time from Twitter users, an audience member yelled that Michelle should run for president in 2020, a comment that Michelle quickly responded too in typical Obama fashion.