Granger Smith's Wife Amber Smiles with Their 2 Children in New Photos after the Loss of Son River
Barely two months after the loss of her son, River, Amber Smith shared adorable photos of herself and her two surviving children, enjoying a memorable day on the lake shores.
LIGHTS IN THE DARK
Two months is never enough to move on after a devastating loss, especially a loss as hurtful as the drowning of Granger and Amber Smith’s three-year-old son. But the couple is determined not to let the loss of River get the better of them.
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We have had such overwhelming help since we lost River. People have been at our house non stop, checking on us, bringing us food, talking with us, praying with us, but for the first time in a month, I was alone for a couple days this past weekend. Granger was on tour and the kids were with family. I decided I needed to just be alone. I needed to just feel all of the emotions. I allowed myself to let out everything I was feeling. I cried. Guttural, animal cries for our son. I’m pretty sure I cried inside and outside every place there was on our property. I so needed it. I talked to God, I talked to River, I read books on Hope and Joy and Grief and Love. I watched movies about Heaven. Cried some more. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but the way Granger and I see it, we can run away from God at this time or we can run to Him. He’s been with us every step of the way, from the first responders and neighbors the night of the accident, to the doctors and nurses hands, to the friends and family by our side, to everything that fell into place so seamlessly for River’s service, to the rainbow He gave us after. He’s been there. So why would we turn on Him now? This life isn’t meant to be perfect. We will face trials and tribulations, loss and heartache, but it’s how we respond to everything thrown at us that matters. Will we retreat and hide from it or will we learn grow from it? I know what I’m choosing. I’m making a conscious choice each and every day to grow from all of this. Does it suck, hell yes. Do I understand? Hell no. Will I have setbacks? Yes. But do I Trust? Yes. I’m committed to loving people and raising kind humans and spreading our love for God, even in the shitty, unfair times. For anyone going through a life changing event in their lives, you are stronger than you think. You can get up. You can fight and find joy, not happiness, happiness is circumstantial. I won’t be “happy” for a while, maybe ever, but I can still have joy in my heart. Joy for my family, my life, and God. And you can too. ❤️
They resolved to stay strong for their two other beautiful kids, whose happiness are the best consolation they could get in these dark times.
STAYING STRONG FOR THE KIDS
Despite her grief, the country singer’s wife made out time to go on a dinner drive, and a walk to the lake with her children, Lincoln and London. She shared pictures from the outing on social media. The family trio looked happy and fulfilled; one could never guess their recent tragedy.
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Nothing can prepare a mother to deliver this kind of news. We’ve lost our youngest son, River Kelly Smith. Following a tragic accident, and despite doctor’s best efforts, he was unable to be revived. Granger and I made the decision to say our last goodbyes and donate his organs so that other children will be given a second chance at life. Our family is devastated and heartbroken, but we take solace in knowing he is with his Heavenly Father. Riv was special. Everyone that met him knew that immediately. The joy he brought to our lives cannot be expressed and his light will be forever in our hearts. If there are words to say more, we cannot find them in this moment. Love the ones close to you. There has never been a more difficult moment for us than this. . . In lieu of flowers or gifts, please send donations to Dell Children’s Medical Center in River’s name. The doctors, nurses and staff have been incredible.
One of the shots showed Amber posed for a selfie with the kids, London held on to her neck, while Lincoln’s cheek was rested on his sister’s back. They showed off adorable smiles that reflected an inner peace within them.
In another pic, the two children strike separate poses, with their hands spread out in the air, smiling joyfully and free-spirited. The fun outing was an avenue for the aggrieved siblings and their mom to let loose, and they did.
EXCERPTS FROM A MAGICAL BOOK
The celebrity’s wife has found a source of inspiration from a book titled “Bronner,” which has admittedly been a blessing in helping the mother deal with her sad loss. The steadfast mother shared some inspirational messages from the book in her caption:
“Suffering produces in us endurance and character and hope. It steadies us in our faith and deepens its roots in order that we may be able to weather any storm.it makes us reach forward to greater things that we can see right now, but that we know for sure not only exists but will be ours at last.”
She finished her write up saying that the smiles on her kids’ faces were some of the brightest lights in the dark.
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“Suffering produces in us endurance and character and hope. It steadies us in our faith and deepens its roots in order that we may be able to weather any storm. It makes us reach forward to greater things than we can see right now, but that we know for sure not only exist, but will be ours at the last.” Excerpt from the book Bronner by @momgirl777 . This book is magic. After dinner drive and walk to the lake. The smiles on these faces are some of the brightest lights in the dark. ❤️
A LIGHT TO OTHERS
The parents of the deceased revealed on Instagram that River’s organs were donated to children who needed organ transplants. Knowing that their son lived on in other people gave them a certain level of fulfillment.
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I’ve always known I wanted to be a donor if anything were to ever happen to me. I just felt that if I had viable organs, why would I go into the ground with them? My spirit would be in Heaven, so why not save a life if I could? Never in a million years did I think I would be making that decision for my baby. When 3 different neuro specialists told us that River had 0% chance of brain recovery (yes 0, not 10 or 1%, 0) after shock and reality set in, I thought, how can we bury our sweet baby and not try to help others? His body is perfect, his organs are perfect, we had to do something. There are so many people waiting for an organ to save their lives. The doctors said donation was quite a process. We would have to search for viable recipients and it could take days. We knew River’s spirit was in Heaven, but we couldn’t bear to watch his tiny, earthly body be pumped full of all the medicines for 3 or more more days while they searched. They tried to expedite the process so our family could be in peace, told us they would take him back to operate the next morning, but we wouldn’t know what organs could be used until after. With such a small body, organs had to be measured physically, not just by X-ray. I spent the night laying in bed with him, crying and talking to him while they kept running tests and taking blood. The next morning family and staff lined the hall for the “walk of honor”. We told them River liked to go fast, so to honor him, they pushed him down that hall faster than they had ever pushed anyone. Granger and I held each other and cried. We got the letter that our tiny, red-headed hero gave life to 2 adults. A 49 year old woman and a 53 year old man. I cried when we opened it. Cried out of sadness & cried out of love. I’m so proud to be River’s mama and I’m so grateful to God that he gave him to us for those incredible 3 years. I pray these 2 recipients live healthy, joy filled, full throttle lives just like Riv. It was one of the hardest, yet easiest, decisions we’ve ever made. There are over 113,000 people waiting for transplants & 20 people die each day waiting. Go to OrganDonor.gov to see how you can help give life as well. ❤️
RIVER’S LAST MOMENTS
In a video released by the couple in June, the country singer recounted his late son’s last moments, saying that it happened during a family fun time.
One minute, he was watching the 3-year-old have a water gun fight with his brother, and the next, he was drowning in the pool, and all efforts to resuscitate him via CPR proved abortive.
The loss of the adorable, free-spirited kid was a hard blow on the family, but they are basking stronger, and growing closer daily, another gift the little boy left in the world; A blessed family!