June 22, 2020
Already a godparent, a woman declined to commit to the responsibility for a second time when her cousin asked. Now, the woman is in hot water even though she knows she’s not the right person to take it all on.
Taking to social media, a woman asked netizens for their opinion now that she’s reached the point where her family is trying to persuade her to become a godparent for the second time.
SHE IS ALREADY A GODPARENT
A few months ago, the woman became the proud godparent of a young boy named Ace. The baby’s parents and the woman are not related, and Ace’s mom has a medical condition that could potentially cause her death.
Together, Ace’s parents and the woman drew up legal documents to seal the deal, and Ace would only go to her if something happened to his father as well.
THE SECOND GODPARENT REQUEST
Then “out of the blue,” the woman received a telephone call from her cousin. The pair “drifted apart” over the last few years, as she doesn’t condone the cousin’s substance abuse. Then the cousin fell pregnant and continued “drinking heavily” throughout her pregnancy.
According to doctors, there’s an 85% chance that the baby will have “severe problems” when she is born - which is set to happen before the end of the month. And since the cousin is due soon, she wanted to seal the godparent deal as well.
WHY SHE DECLINED
But the woman decided to decline for a few reasons. Firstly, the cousin had a variety of conditions attached to the request. As a godparent, she would babysit whenever the cousin wants to “have a good time,” she will convert to the Catholic faith, and move over a thousand miles back to her hometown to raise the cousin’s daughter.
Secondly, the woman didn’t think it to be in her, or the child’s best interest to agree to the significant responsibility since she is not capable of giving the child what she needs. And so the woman said no, much to the cousin’s shock and dismay, as the woman wrote:
"She freaked out, said that I would " take one disabled child but not hers?". Ace has a stupid allergy to pineapples and kiwis, hardly a disability."
THERE IS A DEEPER REASON TOO
But for the woman is not about the disability, it’s about the inability to give a child the type of care inherently deserved. But it’s also about the stipulations attached to the cousin’s request.
The woman will have to abandon her own values, ideologies, and beliefs apart from uprooting her life if she agreed, and she is not prepared to do that.
“This is a serious decision, and if for ANY reason you don’t feel you are able to take on this responsibility, it is best you decline. And decline now. This way, she has time to find the right person for this,” a netizen responded.
Various similar opinions streamed in as others called the cousin’s stipulations “swimming pool-sized red flags.” What do you think? Would you agree to the cousin’s request or not?
In another related story of the day, a future bride was not about to let anything interfere with the vision she had for her wedding day.
Since the bride and groom decided to have an open bar during their reception, they only invited guests over the age of twenty-one, but then they also didn’t invite their autistic nephew intentionally, and that didn’t sit to well the family at first.