August 04, 2020
For two gay dads, starting their family came with some heartbreak until they found themselves with twice the blessing. Check out their uplifting story now.
When Terrell and Jarius Joseph got married, they were eager to start a family. But as a gay Black couple, they did not see a lot of families that looked like them.
After graduating from college in 2015, they quickly bought a house and by October, they were expecting their first child via a surrogate.
However, at 20 weeks, their surrogate had a miscarriage and the couple described coping with the news as a "rough time."
The pair then decided to try surrogacy again. However, the woman they found was finding it difficult to get pregnant and so they moved on to another surrogate who quickly told them that she was expecting. But they got another surprise. They said:
"And then the other surrogate calls us back and is like 'Oh my God guys, it was a false negative, I'm pregnant.' Instantly everything was just like times two."
With the news, Jarius was "terrified" of having two children at the same time, but for Terell, it was a dream come true as he had always wanted twins.
Nine months later, their son and daughter Ashton and Aria were born only five weeks apart and the couple finally had their family.
Terrell and Jarius hit 1 million followers on TikTok.
Now the couple creates content about their family fulltime, something that they did because the Josephs had not seen much representation of families like theirs.
Earlier this month, Terrell and Jarius hit 1 million followers on TikTok and celebrated the occasion by sharing a photo of their entire family with a "1 M" balloons saying:
"There was no BLACK "GAY" family that was largely visible on social media that we could find comfort in. So we decided to fill that void...not knowing the impact it would have!"
Kordale Lewis and Kaleb Lewis attend the Flex and Shanice private dinner at TreeSound Studio in 2015 | Photo: Getty Images
While they initially faced some disapproval, the pair attributed some of the negativity they faced to racial stereotypes, something that Terrell and Jarius also felt.
Both couples felt that in the African American community, it was important to be visible as gay Black men looking after their children, something that was not often seen.
In 2017, Kordale and Kaleb appeared in a shoot for Acne Studio's new fashion collection and now Terrell and Jarius continue to create content to get rid of stereotypes and fight for LGBTQ+ rights.