Daughter Wants to Talk to the Woman Responsible for Her Parents Divorce — Here's Why
A Reddit user wondered if she was wrong for seeking closure by speaking to the woman who was responsible for her parents' catastrophic divorce years ago.
A Reddit user revealed that her parents divorced when she was 10 years old. The divorce was very messy at the time and all she knew was that the situation seemed like a real Charles-Diana-Camilla triangle.
After years of watching her father fall in love with another woman, her mother eventually cracked and opted for a divorce. The separation was acrimonious and did a lot of damage to their daughter, so much so that she is still working things out in therapy.
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The Reddit user's father tied the knot with his mistress only 30 days after the divorce between him and her mother was finalized. Eventually, the mistress who became her father's wife could not handle how things were happening — everyone seemed so awful to her.
The Reddit user admitted that she was also horrible to her father's new wife, along with friends of her parents who bad-mouthed her in their small town. The new wife named Angie decided that she could not deal with it and walked away from the marriage after 2 years.
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Ever since then, they never saw her again and her father never really moved on from his hurt. It turned out that he really loved her. Years later, the Reddit user was all grown up and in her twenties. While in therapy, her therapist suggested that she talked to the people in her life that were connected to the divorce.
Her father was happy to talk but her mother was reticent. After searching for Angie, she found that the older woman lived only a town away. She sent Angie a message on Facebook asking to speak, but she declined.
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Desperate to have that important conversation, the Reddit user sent another message, exploring in greater detail why she wanted to speak. She told Angie that she was not holding anything against her any longer; she was just looking for closure and thought talking to her would be helpful to move on from her childhood trauma.
Angie declined again and told her former stepdaughter that she had managed to move on and was not interested in rehashing the past. The Reddit user continued to beg, telling Angie that talking to her was the least she could do to help her move on. Angie blocked her.
To give it a try one last time, the younger woman made her way to Angie's home after finding her address in the phone book. When she got there, Angie refused to answer the door and threatened to call the cops.
The Reddit user was baffled. She could not understand why her former stepmother was refusing to talk to her even though she was instrumental in the divorce of her parents. Although she felt like Angie owed her, she still wondered if she was wrong.
Here's a similar story about a woman who refused to be at her father's wedding even though she also cheated.