September 24, 2021
A woman in her early thirties turned to Reddit, voicing her concerns about how her brother wants her to make an exception for his rainbow baby at her adult-only wedding event.
Some of the most memorable moments of our life can turn awry because of family conflicts, and this 33-year-old female experienced the same feeling. To vent out, she posted her story in Reddit's popular AITA forum, hoping to get some clarity.
The wedding, which will take place in October, has already stirred up trouble for the woman and her fiancé Derek. The couple decided to keep a child-free wedding and experienced trouble when they began sending out invitations.
The bride's eldest and only brother, Paul, wants her to make an exception for his rainbow baby at the wedding. His wife underwent several failed pregnancies, including miscarriages before the baby was born. Regarding her nephew's behavior, she said:
"Everyone salutes him and [treats] him as a king and also turn blind eye to any misbehaviors he has which caused him to become loud, [destructive], out of control and punish-less."
Her 4-year-old nephew is treated as the king in her family, and everyone loves him dearly because he's the miracle baby. The 33-year-old bride shared that the moment her brother received the invitation, he stirred up drama and turned her family against her.
Despite her family's allegations, the woman added that she had not particularly planned a child-free wedding to put off her loved ones. She and Derek always had plans to organize an adult-only wedding, including their family and friends.
[The woman] had been married before but ended up divorcing her ex-husband due to her inability to have kids.
However, her 42-year-old brother lashed out at her and specifically asked she make an exception for her nephew. He also added that he didn't care whether the wedding only allowed adults and didn't wish for that rule to apply to his miracle baby.
While the bride hoped her other family members would understand her situation, her brother had rallied support from all of them, including her parents. They told her to be ashamed of her appalling behavior toward her brother and 4-year-old nephew.
She even tried talking to Derek, who said that if they permitted her nephew to attend the wedding, they would have to do the same for the kids of her friends and inlaws, thus having to make last-minute arrangements for babysitters.
The worst-case scenario turned out when the bride's uncles and aunts also refused to attend the wedding, putting her in a tough spot. Along with her brother and parents, her relatives made her feel horrible for being selfish and only caring about her happiness.
Despite the harsh treatment she's received from her family, several Redditors supported the bride, leaving encouraging comments on her post. The top comment has garnered over 30,000 upvotes so far.
One Redditor added: "You are not being malicious, you are making a decision about your guest list." The user suggested that the wedding was about her and her fiancé, rather than her brother, her nephew, and her family.
At the end of her post, the woman also added that she had been married before but ended up divorcing her ex-husband due to her inability to have kids. She said that her brother thinks she's jealous because he has a child, and she doesn't.
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