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October 08, 2021

Woman Refused to Pay Her Sister for Their Father's Funeral

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When you receive the news of a family member's death, it leaves you in shock, and you need time to process it. So many questions pop up in your head while your eyes fill up with tears. Then comes the tricky part of planning the funeral and realizing how much it all costs.

Why are funerals so expensive? Not only has the family lost their loved one, but now they have to go through the stressful process of arranging a funeral. Even though they haven't fully recovered from the emotional shock of losing their loved one,  they are left scrambling to fund the expensive arrangements. 

The truth is that several steps are involved in funerals, including transportation, preparation of the body, memorial service, and burial. Each step needs human resources and specialized techniques, so it's no surprise that the costs add up.

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WOMAN REFUSED TO PAY HER SISTER FOR EXPENSES OF THEIR FATHER'S FUNERAL

Would you spend a fortune on your loved one's funeral when they wished it was as simple as possible? A Redditor confessed she refused to pay her sister for their father's funeral because her sister decided on an over-the-top funeral against their father's wishes.

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When their father was alive, he told the Redditor that he wanted to be handled by the same funeral house that buried her grandparents. However, her sister had already hired the most expensive funeral house in her absence. She accepted her decision and invited her sister to talk to the funeral house the following day.

When the Redditor arrived at the funeral house, her sister had already paid for extra arrangements. When the Redditor confronted her sister, who didn't have a stable job about it, she revealed that she had used her credit cards and borrowed money from other people to pay for the extras and then asked the Redditor to pay her back half of the money.

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The OP (Original Poster) contacted the other funeral house and discovered they would have been cheaper. She then refused to pay half and explained to her sister that it wasn't fair to expect her to pay half when she decided on this funeral house, disrespected their father's wishes, and made extra arrangements without her approval. 

She also had trouble trusting her sister with money because her sister had been to jail several times. Thus, she told her she would pay to the funeral house instead. The OP went on to ask other users if she was unfair, but the majority supported her decision. Some even said she should cut her sister off.

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WOMAN REFUSED TO PAY FOR HER FATHER'S FUNERAL BECAUSE HE ABANDONED HER

Another Redditor said she didn't want to pay for her father's funeral because he abandoned her during her childhood. She lost contact with him after he ran with his girlfriend but later exchanged phone calls. A few days before his death, she found out that he was in the hospital and she and her brother had to arrange the funeral.

The funeral expenses would be about $1500, and she and her brother had to bear it. She didn't want to pay because she never considered him as her father, but if she didn't, then the burden would shift on her brother's shoulders. She asked other users for suggestions, and one of them said:

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WHAT HAPPENS IF NO ONE PAYS FOR A PERSON'S FUNERAL?

Does the state intervene when no one pays for a person's funeral? Do governments provide financial assistance to people who can't afford funeral services? The general answer is yes. Local authorities are responsible for the funeral if a person leaves no money behind, and their family cannot take on the responsibility.

A student nurse applied for a funeral payment scheme after her father's sudden demise. The scheme makes sure the government bears all expenses. Unfortunately, the girl didn't qualify for the financial aid and had to manage the costs independently.

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Since she was a working student, the government asked her to apply for a loan to meet her father's funeral expenses. She managed to arrange a basic funeral for her father, although she wished she could do more. 

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The disgruntled student decided to take a stand, saying,  "I feel like I'm being penalized because I'm a student. I work 30 hours a week as well as assignments on top, but I barely have enough money to live off without paying for a funeral, too,"

NOT MANY FAMILIES CAN PAY FOR FUNERALS

Many people in the U.S. cannot afford to pay for funerals, so they opt for cremation services instead of burying their loved ones. Cremation has some advantages over burial, including lower costs and less planning. You can also save the ashes in many ways.

However, not everyone wants to be cremated, and many religions do not permit it as an option. Unfortunately, t's not easy to bear the costs associated with burial; thus, many low-income families depend on funeral homes to bury their loved ones.

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And while this usually is a great option, authorities in Detroit recently discovered a funeral home that never buried the remains and instead cremated the bodies against the familys' wishes and then stored the ashes in bags and boxes. The investigators found about 300 remains at the funeral home. 

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The families were unaware of the actions of the funeral home management and had trusted them to handle the entire process. This raised many questions in the community as so many could not afford traditional funeral proceedings.

Should people trust funeral houses with the cremation and burial of their loved ones? It's difficult for people to save thousands of dollars for funerals, so they are left with only a few options, and funeral houses remain one of the most cost-effective. 

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The authorities also discovered a funeral house in Detriot that had fetus remains stored in the ceiling. This irresponsible behavior breaks the community's trust and leaves people unsure of what will happen to their loved ones if they put them in the hands of funeral homes.

How do you think the cost of funerals can be reduced? Or is it fair to pay thousands of dollars to bury your loved one? Leave a comment so we can know what our readers think about this topic. 

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