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Parents Abandon Their 3-Day-Old Child, Leave Her a Note Suggesting They Meet in 20 Years

Lois Oladejo
Feb 27, 2022
01:00 A.M.
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Twenty-two years after her birth parents abandoned her in China, Kati Pohler finally reunited with the couple. Here's the emotional story behind the reunion.


Many children embark on a journey searching for their biological parents, despite living comfortable and happy lives with their adoptive parents. However, when found, the joy of finally reuniting with the people who birthed them knows no bounds.

In 2017, college student Kati Pohler experienced that joy when she reunited with her Chinese birth parents, 22 years after being abandoned at a bridge. Let's take a glimpse into what transpired between Kati and her biological parents.


In 1995, Qian Fenxiang gave birth to her second daughter, Jingzhi, who was renamed, Kati. Under China's draconian one-child policy introduced in 1979 to reduce poverty, Kati should have been aborted. However, Fenxiang and her husband Xu Lida decided to keep the baby. 


After Kati was born, the couple carried out a do-it-yourself delivery process as going to the hospital was out of the question. After completing the process, Fenxiang and Lida knew they could not keep the baby.

Kati Pohler playing a violin. | Source: Stories


So, they made the ultimate decision to give up the child, with the hope that someone would adopt her and give her a good home. Speaking to BBC, Lida explained:

"[...]I held her and hugged her for a while. Then I walked to the market. [...]I kissed her gently. I knew it was the final farewell. Then I walked away."

Kati Pohler and her adoptive parents, Ken and Ruth Pohler. | Source: Stories


Lida dropped the baby at the Broken Bridge on Hangzhou with a note that read: "Our daughter, Jinhzhi, was born at 10 a.m. on the 24th day of the seventh month of the calendar, 1995. We have been forced by poverty and affairs of the world to abandon her. Pity the hearts of father and mother far and near."

In the concluding part of the letter, the following words were written: "If the heavens have feelings, if we are brought together by fate, then let us meet again at the Broken Bridge in Hangzhou on the morning of the Qixi Festival in 10 or 20 years from now."

Kati Pohler at the dining table with her adoptive parents, Ken and Ruth Pohler | Source: Stories



Ken and Ruth Pohler traveled from Michigan to China to adopt a baby one year later. Thankfully, Kati was the lucky child and was welcomed into the family. She grew up happily in Hudsonville, Michigan, and was never deprived of love from her parents. 

When Kati turned ten in 2005, Ken and Ruth sent a messenger to the Broken Bridge as the letter had asked. However, the messenger was too late and missed Kati's biological parents, who had been waiting hopefully for a long time. 

Instead of returning without any news, the messenger spoke to news outlets present to cover reunion stories. The news station publicized Kati's story hoping that her biological parents would come forward, and they did.



Ruth and Ken exchanged contacts with the birth parents and kept in touch. Finally, in 2016, Kati's adoptive parents filled her in on her birth and the note attached to her on the bridge. After hearing the story, Kati took a trip to China to see her birth parents.

With help from translators, Katie reunited with her biological parents on the Broken Bridge on the eve of the 2017 Qixi Festival. She also met her older sister for the first time. It was a surreal moment for her parents and for Kati. She was excited about Fenxiang and Lida and the city she was born in.