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'Who's the Boss?'s' Judith Light Lives Apart from Husband of 37 Years ⁠— Inside Her Marriage

Gracious Egedegbe
May 06, 2022
11:00 P.M.
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Actress Judith Light and her husband have a peculiar marriage arrangement, and it works perfectly fine for them. After defying the odds, they are ready to take on the world.


Judith Light, best known for her award-winning performances in movies and sitcoms and also as a singer, has starred in a handful of TV shows and films including; "Ugly Betty," "Who's the Boss," "Transparent," and so many others. 

Light met her husband, Robert Desiderio, when on the set of the movie "One Life to Live." They dated for four years before tying the knot in 1985.

Robert Desiderio and Judith Light during Reprise! Broadway's Best "Company" Play Opening at UCLA's Freud Playhouse in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images


Desiderio, after meeting her for the first time, wanted her to leave New York and move to California, but the actress declined on the grounds that she loved her city and would be nowhere else but there.

The hardworking actress, who has earned herself a name in Hollywood, is a focused and determined woman where business is concerned and is unapologetic about it. She once said :

"I'm like a Thoroughbred racehorse—I run my own race." 


Judith Light and her husband actor Robert Desiderio attend an event circa 1987 in Los Angeles, California. | Source: Getty Images


The "Who's The Boss" actress and her hubby, Desiderio, have an understanding of quite a lot of topics, including the birth of their children. Light said that it was more of a choice than a decision between the both of them not to have children in their marriage.

She agreed that being a mother is a "joyful job," and she has seen quite a few family members who excel beautifully at their motherly duties.

Robert Desiderio and Judith Light attend a cocktail party to celebrate EJAF, the 90th Academy Awards, and to honor Chef Joan Roca on March 2, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Images


The daughter of an accountant and model made it known that she has quite a lot on her plate, and although some people may call her selfish, it's a choice she made, and so what?

Light said unlike others who feel in their spirit the urge to have children, she does not have that strong feeling. She said it was a decision she and her hubby came about after a long, deliberate discussion before their marriage, and it was sealed.


The actress and Desiderio have a lot in common, which includes their love of alone time. This helped them come to an agreement on a lot of topics, including having kids. Light uttered:

"He loves his alone time." 

The couple, who came to a concession about the birth of offspring, enjoy their time together and have ample time on their hands to enjoy one another's company. They were seen at Elton John's cocktail party in Beverly Hills.


Light, who has come a long way with her husband, posts throwbacks of them on Instagram. A couple that works together stays together. This is the case of Light and Desiderio, who take online classes to teach screenwriting.


Judith Light and husband Robert Desiderio on September 22, 2003, in Beverly Hills, California. | Source: Getty Images


This celebrity couple does have a lot in common and has found a way to balance things out between themselves. They have managed to pull off stunts that are peculiar to their union.

Light and Desiderio do not live together, in fact, they live in different cities. The actress lives in New York while her husband lives in California. The evergreen actress said she loves New York so much and cannot imagine living elsewhere. 

Judith Light and Robert Desiderio arrive at the 16th Annual GLAAD Media Awards at the Kodak Theater on April 30, 2005, in Hollywood, California. | Source: Getty Images.


The hustle and bustle of NY has its positive effect on Light, and she has lived in the city so long that she has established business and personal relations that cannot be easily severed.

Desiderio, who is settled in California, understood his wife's plight and, being the dutiful husband he is, decided to meet her halfway by allowing her to live in her city whilst he in his.

Light declared that they have an adorable marriage and respect one another's feelings, although they want to stay together.

Judith Light attends "The Politician" New York Premiere at DGA Theater on September 26, 2019, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images.


She cited an example when she had to go to NY on business, and her husband inquired what she was going to do about it; she bluntly stated that she asked him back what he was going to do because she was leaving for her gig.

Over the past three decades together, the couple has shown so much love and dedication to one another. They shuttle between the two cities to be together and keep up with their love life.

Judith Light attends the 2019 Glamour Women Of The Year Summit at Alice Tully Hall on November 10, 2019 in New York City | Source: Getty Images


After 22 years away from the screen, Light returned bigger and better when she starred in an off-Broadway production "Wit," where she played the character of a cancer patient and had to shear her mane.

Her husband, who is ever supportive of her endeavors was nothing short of glad. The unusual couple, who share the love of humanity and went on a 75-mile wilderness hike to raise money for the South African AIDS charity, is nothing short of lovely.


Robert Desiderio and Judith Light attend Global Green USA Hosts it's 10th Annual Green Cross Millennium Awards at The Beverly Hills Hotel on April 1, 2006 in Beverly Hills, California | Source: Getty Images


The Emmy-nominated actress is anything but retired. The 70-year-old actress looks like she only has just begun to dazzle us. With the resurrection of her acting career, a whole lot of projects have been underway, and it sure seems like it's going to be a jolly ride for us all.

"Before You Know It" is one of her recent projects which talks about her life and experiences. It ticks all the boxes for her, and the character resonates so much with her.

Judith Light and her husband, Robert Desiderio attend the ceremony honoring Judith Light with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame held on September 12, 2019 in Hollywood, California | Source: Getty Images


She also has teamed up with celebrity writers to develop an indie movie amongst other things. She comments that it's all so interesting for her, and things are really going so fast. Light feels she's experiencing life more and is open to new ideas.

Desiderio is also working on two writing projects and developing projects for film and TV. Light paints a picture of freedom and love for what she does. She explains that she has a great sense of value for those she works with and is nothing short of thankful that she can get to do this.

Judith Light and her husband, Robert Desiderio attend the ceremony honoring Judith Light with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame held on September 12, 2019 in Hollywood, California | Source: Getty Images


The actress affirms that with the advancement of age on her side, she has come to appreciate a lot of things, and she views life from a different perspective.

Light and her husband are the definition of fine wine - they keep getting better with age. Their marriage defied tradition and came to be successful both in marine and career. We wish them the very best in future endeavors.