Woman Is Upset about Receiving $8 Engagement Ring, People Advise Her to Return It to 'Lazy' Fiancé

Getting engaged to her fiancé after years of dating seemed like the perfect step to take in their romantic relationship. However, several weeks later, she stumbled on something that questioned their entire relationship.

Romantic relationships are beautiful, especially when you're with someone you love. The thought of getting engaged to that special person will send butterflies down anyone's stomach.

However, one thing that has often dominated the news about an engagement is the engagement ring's worth. Is buying an expensive or cheap engagement ring a measure of the value of a relationship?

This is what a Reddit user was left pondering after she posted her story on the platform to ask if she overreacted or if there was something she had to worry about. Here's what the Original Poster shared.

OP'S DISAPPOINTMENT WITH HER FIANCÉ

OP and her fiancé were childhood friends. They had dated for years and, at some point during their relationship, like most couples, discussed the possibility of getting married.

The pair eventually took that step when OP's fiancé proposed to her. He proposed to her with a unique ring adorned with fire opals and a black band.

Weeks after their heartwarming engagement, OP was scrolling through Amazon when something drew her attention. She saw the exact engagement ring her fiancé had proposed with.

However, a quick glance at the price left her disappointed and confused. The ring at the center of their special occasion was listed for just $8. OP rechecked the ring's features and confirmed it was the same ring her fiancé used to proclaim his love for her.

When she saw the ring for the first time, OP knew it was not very expensive because the colors were already rubbing off, but the fact it was this cheap left her very upset.

OP disclosed she's someone who does not care for diamonds or very pricey things. She had even told her fiancé that $10,000 rings did not matter to her as long as he truly loved her.

Although she is not a materialistic person or someone who sees money as an indicator of love, OP believed her fiancé should have at least spent up to $50 on something that symbolized their commitments to each other.

The pair both work and have jobs that give them up to $300 monthly in extra spending money, which meant they were not broke, and he could afford it.

After the discovery, OP tried to talk to her fiancé about what she found. He confirmed that the ring she saw on Amazon was the one on her finger and that $8 was the correct price.

Apart from that, her fiancé refused to talk about anything else. When OP tried to brush off the situation without making him angry, he stormed off.

Even though OP was raised poor and had never viewed money as vital to a relationship, she could not help but feel disappointed. Although she had told her fiancé that she would love him even if they were homeless, the situation still saddened her.

"Still, the fact that he only spent eight dollars kind of makes me feel like [expletive]. Like, is our engagement really only worth $8?" OP confessed.

NETIZENS' THOUGHTS

OP shared the story to get users' reactions and thoughts on if she might be the one at fault because she initially told her fiancé that price did not matter. Changing her stance afterward made her feel bad.

Since sharing the story, the post has generated over 500 comments and reactions. Here's what some people had to say -- Redditor Father-Son-Holytoast agreed with some other users that OP should stop acting like she is not similar to girls who like jewelry. Furthermore, he noted:

“OP seems way too hung up on being a Cool Girl who's chill and rolls with whatever, which has rendered her a complete doormat to her lazy fiancé. I'm curious if she's always been like this or if her fiancé has manipulated her into thinking that asking for respectful treatment would make her a shrewish harpy?

"I'm with you on the ridiculousness of engagement rings which is why my husband proposed with a simple gold band. Your fiancé put no thought or effort and focused on the money part only and not on getting a real ring that will last as long as you hope your marriage last," Redditor [deleted] wrote.

The user continued, saying just because OP did not want to keep up with the Kardashians did not mean she didn't deserve a decent ring. Redditor [deleted] concluded by asking OP to call her fiancé out on it, return the ring, and tell him to do better because she deserved it.

However, OP disagreed. She noted that she could not imagine returning the ring to her fiancé, adding that she should have communicated more with him instead of just assuming. Another Redditor, ScarletDarkstar, noted:

"In my opinion, op shouldn't have to ask, and regardless of her position, a man should have a clue that an engagement ring is important and not something you give less than $10 for on a whim."

"I told my fiancé from [the] jump that I don't say things I don't mean because I'm not a mind reader and don't expect him to be. So if I say 'I'm fine,' then that's exactly what I mean," Redditor Whiteroses7252012 remarked.

The user noted that to make relationships last, one has to be clear, direct, and concise from the outset. Not doing that means that the person is not for you and that if you want something important, you must be clear about it.