Dad Wishes His Kids Had Never Been Born and Tells His Wife – Their Children Find Out

After being with his wife for fifteen years and having two children, a man confessed that he never wanted to be a father. During a messy argument with his wife, he revealed his true feelings about fatherhood, unaware that his children would soon find out what he had said.

While couples struggling with infertility wish to have children, others try their best not to get pregnant. They might feel having a child comes with an additional list of responsibilities that would stop them from enjoying their lives.

The man in today's story thought becoming a father would be an exciting experience, but things took a different turn after his baby was born. The unexpected life change took a toll on his relationship with his wife and kids.

A BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIP

After Roger spent time with his girlfriend, Nicole, he knew she was the perfect match for him. Soon, the couple decided to take things forward and got married to start a new chapter of their lives.

In the beginning, Roger felt his marriage was perfect. He was happy to live in the same house with the love of his life. Roger and Nicole rarely had any arguments, which convinced the man he had made the right decision by marrying his girlfriend.

However, things took a different turn three years later when the couple decided to have a child. Roger had expected fatherhood to be a wholesome experience, but life surprised him with something unexpected.

THE UNEXPECTED CHALLENGES

Roger and Nicole agreed to have a child three years after tying the knot, not knowing how their decision would change their lives. Roger said:

"A lot of disagreements and issues came up in our lives that somehow drove us apart."

After having one child, the couple thought having another kid would fix their marriage. Little did they know that having two children instead of one would only add to their list of disagreements.

THE FATHER'S FEELINGS

Having two children meant Roger had to work harder to fulfill their needs. He was working a job he disliked because he had no other way to make ends meet. He confessed:

"If I could go back in time, I wouldn't choose fatherhood again. For me, it's not the fulfilling experience everyone claims it to be."

Roger felt his sacrifices for his kids weren't "worth it." Although he loved his children and could do anything for them, he thought he was happier before embracing fatherhood. Roger hadn't revealed his feelings to his wife until he got into an argument with her.

THE LIFE-CHANGING FIGHT

One day, Roger unexpectedly got into a fight with his wife, who he had known for fifteen years. During their argument, Nicole discovered Roger's true feelings about becoming a father. Roger revealed:

"She was furious, and today I heard her telling our kids (4 and 7 years old) that I wished they had never been born."

Roger said what Nicole told their children was true, but he still loved them and didn't want to hurt their feelings. Meanwhile, Nicole refused to talk to him after knowing how he felt.

ASKING FOR ADVICE

Feeling helpless, Roger turned to the internet for advice to fix his marriage. He didn't want to lose his wife or children, and at the same time, he couldn't hide his feelings from them anymore.

After Roger shared his problem with the online publication Bright Side, they gave him some helpful advice to make his relationship work. First, they assured him he did the right thing by venting his feelings because doing so would make him feel relieved.

The experts also suggested Roger gently explain to his wife why he felt unhappy after having children while reminding her that he still loved his kids.

SOLVING HIS PROBLEM

Since Roger said he was unhappy with his job, the team suggested he look for another job. They also motivated him to learn new skills and switch his career to something he enjoyed doing.

The experts asked Roger to frequently take his wife out on a date to make things work between them. Spending time together without children would remind them how much they loved each other.

Lastly, the experts thought Roger should take some time out for himself. They advised him to pursue the hobbies he had before having children because doing so would positively impact his mental well-being.

Do you think Roger did the right thing by confessing his feelings? How would you react if you were in his wife's shoes? Do you have any advice for Roger?

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