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Woman Meets Her Man's Ex-Wife, Now Wants Them Back Together

Bettina Dizon
Sep 13, 2023
05:30 A.M.

A 27-year-old woman's nearly one-year relationship completely changed when she learned why her boyfriend's previous relationship ended. She genuinely wants him to get back with his ex.

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Since their relationship began, the woman and her 35-year-old boyfriend, Danny, rarely to never discussed his past marriage. However, she knows he is a father to a five-year-old son, Ian, who primarily lives with his mom. At times, he visits his dad.

Ian recently graduated from daycare, and to celebrate, the young boy wanted to have a nice dinner with his family. Danny's ex-wife, Mer, 29, invited him and his new girlfriend over for dinner at their son's request.

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A happy couple smiling at each other. | Source: Shutterstock

The woman initially hesitated to join, but when her boyfriend insisted, she agreed. The weekend eventually came, and they all had dinner at Mer's house. The evening with Mer turned out to be unexpectedly warm and inviting.

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Mer welcomed the couple graciously and interacted with her ex-husband casually without bitterness or over-friendliness. She introduced the man's new girlfriend to their son, and the atmosphere in her home felt amicable and comfortable.

A young boy hugging a woman. | Source: Getty Images

A young boy hugging a woman. | Source: Getty Images

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While Danny and Ian were playing, Mer prepared dinner in the kitchen. Although the woman offered to help, Mer politely declined and insisted she bond with the two boys.

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A father and his son bonding. | Source: Shutterstock

Their conversation was light at the table, and everyone got to know each other a bit better. The woman noticed how kind and well-mannered Mer was, talking about things that would not discomfort anyone.

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Food being passed at dinner. | Source: Shutterstock

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Ian would also join conversations with them and was polite and well-behaved. Undoubtedly, Mer was a good mother who raised her son well. It was evident that both parents took their roles seriously, answering Ian's questions with patience and love.

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A little boy playing with his mom. | Source: Shutterstock

Mer's kindness extended beyond dinner. When it was time to leave, she packed food for the woman, knowing that her ex-husband's current girlfriend lived alone and often relied on takeout. The thoughtful gesture left an impact on the woman.

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A table set-up with food. | Source: Shutterstock

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Seeing as Mer was nothing less than perfect made the woman curious about her relationship with Danny. She wondered how Danny could leave such a wonderful woman and son. Eventually, she asked him, and the answer left her heartbroken.

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A woman wondering while a man looks at her. | Source: Shutterstock

One drunken night he couldn't even recall, he cheated on Mer while she was attending her mother's funeral abroad. To make things worse, the one-night affair was with a mutual friend, who filmed their evening and sent it to Mer.

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When she returned, Mer remained calm and slept in their son's room. "Serve the divorce papers, and I'll sign it. Just make sure I have sole custody, and you have visitation days," was the only thing she told Danny. She remained quiet, leaving Danny to bear the weight of his actions alone.

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Danny had nothing but kind words to say about Mer, describing her as caring, patient, and family-oriented. She was selfless and genuine and would even cook for him and his friends. However, he returned her kindness with betrayal, leaving her to grieve for her mom while breaking her heart.

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

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By the end of his story, Danny was crying uncontrollably, a sight the woman never saw throughout their relationship. He apologized and reassured her she wasn't someone he dated just to move on. However, the woman was beginning to wonder whether she truly was the right person for Danny.

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

"After that night, he's still the same," she said. "But I am not. I [feel] like I am in the way. Mer is still single, she mentioned that she wanted to focus on raising Ian and pursuing her law studies."

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

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The woman sought help from the Reddit community as she was torn between love, empathy, and the desire to do what was best for everyone. Many Reddit users replied to her post, saying it was out of her hands to decide for Mer. One person said:

"If they're calmly having a co-parenting system, leave them be. He hurt her very badly. She doesn't and realistically will never want him back. Mistakes happen, and he lost her. You can't fix that. You'd hurt yourself, him, and his ex-wife if you tried this."

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Another person said, "She doesn't want him back. What makes you think you're in the way of them getting back together? Just because you think they're perfect together, he broke her trust at the worst possible time." Others believe that Danny may have been taken advantage of and that he should seek therapy.

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Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Screenshot of comments on Reddit. | Source: Reddit/offmychest

Do you think that the woman should leave her relationship? What would you have done in her situation?

In a different story, a man demanded that his wife quit her job after learning that a regular customer with a disability had a crush on her.

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