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Woman Struggling with Infertility Gets Pregnant, Her Attention-Seeking Sister Makes It All About Her Own Baby

Ayesha Muhammad
Feb 07, 2024
10:10 P.M.

After years of heartbreaking struggles with infertility and the emotional rollercoaster of IVF, a woman finally embraces the joy of her own pregnancy. But as she prepares for a momentous gender reveal, her sister's constant spotlight on her new baby threatens to overshadow this long-awaited celebration.

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Husband comforting distressed wife | Source: Shutterstock

On February 5, 2024, an anonymous female poster shared her story in Reddit's "AITA" forum, detailing a family dilemma steeped in emotional complexity. The Original Poster (OP) and her husband had been wrestling with infertility for years, enduring multiple miscarriages before finally turning to IVF.

In a twist of fate, as they embarked on their first round of IVF, her younger sister unexpectedly announced her own pregnancy. "I wish she would have given me a heads up," OP lamented, feeling blindsided by the news, especially given their previous conversations about the matter.

Happy pregnant woman holding her baby bump | Source: Shutterstock

Happy pregnant woman holding her baby bump | Source: Shutterstock

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Since the birth of her sister's baby four months prior, the family dynamic had shifted dramatically. OP's sister bombarded their family chat with 10 to 15 daily messages and videos of her baby, a stark contrast to the chat's usual purpose of simple check-ins.

The refusal sparked tension, with the sister reportedly branding OP as insensitive, a sentiment shared behind her back with another sibling.

"Random video calls throughout the day so we can see her baby," OP recounted, highlighting the overwhelming nature of her sister's actions. Even as she struggled with her own fertility issues, her sister's messages about being the one to give the family its first granddaughter and first baby in a while only added to the strain.

Smiling mother holding her baby | Source: Pexels

Smiling mother holding her baby | Source: Pexels

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Despite these challenges, OP's journey had reached a hopeful milestone — she was now 21 weeks pregnant. To celebrate, she planned an online Zoom gender reveal party, inviting family members scattered across the country. However, her sister requested a rescheduling of the event due to it clashing with her baby's sleep schedule.

"I don't want her baby there since she'll make the entire call about her baby," OP admitted, deciding not to acquiesce to her sister's request. She reasoned that her sister could attend while her baby slept, asserting that the event, lasting only a few minutes, shouldn't disrupt a baby's routine.

Couple rejoicing during a gender reveal party | Source: Shutterstock

Couple rejoicing during a gender reveal party | Source: Shutterstock

The refusal sparked tension, with the sister reportedly branding OP as insensitive, a sentiment shared behind her back with another sibling. However, OP's husband and her mother-in-law stood by her side, acknowledging the likelihood of the sister turning the gender reveal into a showcase for her child.

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Torn between her feelings and family harmony, OP turned to the Reddit community, questioning, "AITA for what I said/did?" and wondering if she should set aside her worries for the sake of family unity.

OP's narrative continues to gain traction online, attracting a wide range of comments from netizens, each offering their perspectives on how she can address the situation with her sister with minimal drama.

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Silhouette of a sad pregnant woman | Source: Shutterstock

One commenter was forthright in their approach, suggesting, "Anything you say is going to cause drama, no matter how polite and subtle. She feel entitled. She feels it's her right to be special and the center of attention. You might as well just be blunt. Anything less will still offend her but will also simultaneously not have the desired result of her backing off [sic]."

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Another user offered a more lighthearted perspective, humorously noting, "It's not like the baby is going to remember, lol." They encouraged OP to seize her moment, stating, "Your sister needs to accept it's your turn to shine... It's not about her needs this time, it's about yours. NTA."

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Two women arguing | Source: Shutterstock

A third commenter expressed frustration with what they described as the sister's "insufferable, entitled Mombie" behavior. They advised OP to be direct, adding, "Tell her bluntly that not everything is about her baby and she needs to give you this and accept that it's YOUR time to be the center of attention."

This advice extended beyond the immediate issue, warning of the potential long-term consequences of the sister's behavior on her relationships with friends and relatives.

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These varied responses resonated with OP, particularly the last comment, which provided a sense of validation amid a mixed reception in different forums. OP expressed her gratitude, stating, "Thank you for saying that. I'm getting roasted on the baby bumps subreddit right now, so it was nice to read your comment."

Pregnant woman looking at an ultrasound photo of fetus | Source: Shutterstock

Pregnant woman looking at an ultrasound photo of fetus | Source: Shutterstock

What are your thoughts on this story? Do you support OP's stance, or do you feel she's being unfair to her sister and baby niece? How would you handle the situation if you were in OP's shoes?

Click here to read another story about a woman who was pregnant with her ex's twins, and his girlfriend began treating her like their surrogate.

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