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3 True Stories about Brides Demanding Guests Cut Their Hair for Their Weddings

Daniella Segell
Feb 27, 2024
05:55 A.M.

In the realm of wedding planning, the vision of a picture-perfect day can sometimes lead to requests that tread the line between preference and demand. Three brides risked ruining friendships over wedding day appearance requests.

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An angry bride pointing and yelling | Source: Shutterstock

Three real-life stories exemplify brides asking guests to drastically change their hairstyles for the sake of their wedding. These tales, told on Reddit, each resulted in the guest in question feeling as if their autonomy was being imposed upon.

The first story introduces us to a woman proud of her long, blonde hair, a testament to years of careful maintenance and dedication. She shared that she had had to learn how to properly care for her hair and had spent much of her money and time perfecting her golden tresses.

A woman with long, blonde hair | Source: Shutterstock

A woman with long, blonde hair | Source: Shutterstock

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Her hair, almost identical in color to that of the bride's but vastly different in length and condition, became a point of contention. The bride, fearing that the comparison in their hair's appearance would detract from her own on the big day, requested her friend either cut her hair or dye it.

The suggestion to modify her hair was met with an impossible choice: risk the friendship by refusing or lose a part of herself. The bride refused for the guest to wear her hair in an updo and when the woman said she would need to think about cutting her hair, the bride said having to think about it was a sign that the woman did not care about her enough.

A rear view of a woman with extremely long brunette hair | Source: Shutterstock

A rear view of a woman with extremely long brunette hair | Source: Shutterstock

The second narrative shifts the focus to family ties, introducing a woman with long hair that cascaded down to her mid-thigh. She explained that she was 5'4" and that she had been growing her hair out since she was 14 after a traumatic hair experience.

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One of the woman's close childhood friends had told her that her frizzy hair was a sign of bad hair health. Learning this, she cut her hair short, but felt plain after doing so. Later, she learned that frizzy hair was not a sign of bad hair health and resolved never to take hair advice from anyone else.

Rear view of a young woman with frizzy hair | Source: Shutterstock

Rear view of a young woman with frizzy hair | Source: Shutterstock

However, her sister, the bride, deemed her hair too long and visually displeasing for the wedding photos. The woman offered to style her hair in an updo, but received a refusal. The bride felt that any presence of the hair, whether down or styled up, would be unacceptable.

The familial conflict escalated as the guest was faced with the pressure not only from the bride but also from other family members who echoed the bride's sentiments under the guise of concern that she would not get a job because her hair looked bad and that she was too old for such long hair.

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A woman with extremely long hair in a ponytail | Source: Shutterstock

A woman with extremely long hair in a ponytail | Source: Shutterstock

The bride expressed concern that the woman's appearance would ruin her photos, at which point the woman said she would avoid taking any. When the bride said she was bound to appear in photos, the woman said she would rather not attend her sister's wedding than cut her hair.

Our third story brings us to a woman who, after years of keeping a pixie cut, had finally embraced the journey of growing her hair out. She shared that she had always styled her hair in a pixie cut because her hair never grew out in a way that she thought looked good. However, in January 2022, she noticed her hair had begun growing beautifully, so she grew it out.

A woman with a blonde pixie cut hairstyle | Source: Shutterstock

A woman with a blonde pixie cut hairstyle | Source: Shutterstock

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At the time of posting, the woman's hair had reached just past her shoulders and she had no intention of cutting it shorter. Her newfound hair length was met with an unexpected demand from a childhood friend, the bride, who insisted she revert to her former short hairstyle for the wedding.

The woman shared that although she loved having short hair, she had to cut it four times a year to ensure she didn't grow it into a mullet. She also had her own wedding the next year and wanted her hair to have grown even more by then. The woman added that there was a financial aspect. Although she could afford to pay for four haircuts a year, she was a mother to a then-three-month-old and wanted to spend the money on her child instead.

A rear view of a woman with shoulder-length blonde hair | Source: Shutterstock

A rear view of a woman with shoulder-length blonde hair | Source: Shutterstock

The request was not only impractical, given the guest's current satisfaction with her hair and her own upcoming wedding plans, but also dismissed her personal and financial priorities, which now included caring for a new baby. However, the bride was still not satisfied.

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The bride told the woman that her family still thought that she resembled a male and her now appearing more feminine would steal the bride's spotlight. The woman then offered to wear a wig, but the bride refused this suggestion. If she was part of the wedding party, the woman admitted she might have cut her hair, but since she was a guest, she remained steadfast in her decision to keep her hair long.

While not an issue regarding hair, another woman faced backlash at a wedding for upstaging the bride with her traditional garment. You can find the full story here.

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