My boyfriend is married but says he will divorce soon and marry me

Ksenia Novikova
Jun 07, 2018
03:20 A.M.
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Dear AmoMama,


Two years ago I met a very charming man who just swept me off my feet. At first, everything was perfect, then I started to notice that he would cancel dates on weekends and that he was often out of touch, couldn't answer his phone, or was away on business trips. We would go to my place to make love, but he could never spend the night, and he made excuses not to introduce me to his friends and family.

A year ago I discovered the truth. He is married and has two children. I was horrified. I would never have allowed a relationship to develop if I had imagined he was a married man. My first instinct, my reaction was to walk out, end it then and there. He ran after me, begged me not to leave him, that he needed me in his life. 


He promised me that by the end of the year he would be free, and marry me, but it just hasn't happened. First, he said his son was sick, and he couldn't upset him, then he told me his wife was having work problems and might get fired, then his daughter was diagnosed with a learning disability.

Now his mother is very ill and about to die of cancer, and he wants to wait so as not to shock her because she is very close to his wife.

All in all, I've been waiting and waiting and it has been over a year. I don't know if I can believe him. Every word he has said to me is a lie. He keeps asking me to be patient, but how can I know if he is telling me the truth? He is cheating on his wife, will he also cheat on me?

I love him, but I don't know if I can trust him. Anyone who has been through this, please advise me! 

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