My son told me that he is gay. I kicked him out of my house

Manuela Cardiga
Apr 10, 2018
09:08 A.M.
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Dear AmoMama,


I am very angry and very upset because though I have acted according to the highest morals standards everyone has turned against me including my priest.

My 17-year-old son came to me two weeks ago and told me he had broken up with his girlfriend, a lovely girl from a good family I am very fond of. He told me he was in love with someone else. That someone else he confessed is another player from the football team. Another boy. 

I was very upset, of course, but I told him that if he repented of his inclinations and never transgressed in the flesh God would forgive him his sin. He then told me he and this boy had discovered their inclination on a trip, that he and this boy had had too much to drink and had kissed and had been intimate against Nature.


He said he had been suppressing his feelings for years and that he had always known he was 'different'. I was disgusted and told him so. He was surprised! He said he knew I was friends with a gay man at work, but this man is not my son! 

I won't have it known my son is a deviant, a pervert who touches men. I told him to get out of my house, I threw him out. I told him never to come back.

Now it looks as if the world is turning against me. My husband is very upset and he called me a monster. The truth is it is all his fault. He is a trucker and spends all his time on the road. This would not have happened if my son had had a real man at home to look up to. 


I spoke to my priest and he was very harsh, said I had sinned and that the Pope himself has spoken of acceptance and love and embracing the differences. Does the Pope have a pervert in his house, I ask you? The thought of my beautiful son being intimate with a man, the images flash through my mind constantly.

I am repulsed, revolted, outraged! It's all very well to accept these perverts as an abstract - as friends, neighbors -  and another to know there is one living under your roof. 

Does anyone out there understand what I'm going through? Is everyone so blinded by this 'political correctness' that they can't be honest with themselves? Am I the only one who has reacted in this way? Am I wrong?

My true mistake seems to be, to be lacking in hypocrisy! Is there no-one out there who in their heart of hearts agrees with me? 

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