I have to tolerate my Mom's awful behavior. She even forbids me to smoke in her house

Dear AmoMama;

I’m absolutely furious and I just don’t know how to deal with my 65-year-old and very demanding mother. Unfortunately, about a year ago I had a run of bad luck and lost my job. I was forced to come back to my home-town looking for a fresh start and moved in with my mother, thinking she’d have mellowed out since I left 15 years ago.

At the time I was 20, and we really had some massive fights. At first, it was all ok, though she’s a bit of a nag. Then she started asking me how the job hunting was going and asking me to smoke outside. After that it was downhill: Have you made your bed, please pick up your towel, wash your dishes - like I was 15. Then she started telling me I drink too much. The woman is an absolute pain in the butt.

Yesterday she told me I have to do my own laundry. I told her I could see why my father had left her, and she got angry and told me I need to start looking for an apartment. She has this huge 5 bedroom house, and it was my grandmother’s. I’m not moving and told her so. She actually threatened to call the police on me, her own daughter.

I have to bear my Mom's disgusting behavior. I want to live in peace with her, but it's very difficult.

Can I have her declared incompetent to manage her own affairs? A friend of mine did that. Can anyone out there advise me? I can’t afford a lawyer right now and would love an opinion.

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