My 26-year-old wants to move in with a woman who is 41. Should I allow it?

Manuela Cardiga
May 16, 2018
12:31 P.M.
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Dear AmoMama,


I am 47 years old and I have been a widow since I was 30. My son was 9 when his father died, and I dedicated myself body and soul to raise him right. He is a lovely boy, kind and bright and extremely handsome, just like his father.

My son went to a local university, and he has just passed his bar exam. He was interning at a local law-firm and he was assigned to one of the senior partners, a 41-year-old woman.

At first, I thought she was mentoring him, that she was a mother figure, but he started spending longer and longer hours away, sometimes even sleeping out. I saw some of the messages she sent him on his phone, and they were graphic and disgusting. 


I went to her office and spoke to her, told her she was a dried up old woman who had no right to take advantage of a boy like my son. She told me she loved my son, and he loved her, and that I should accept it because they were planning on moving in together.

When my son got home he was very angry and told me I had no right to interfere in his life, that he loved that disgusting whore. He told me that he is moving in with her. 

I tried to make him see sense, told him I had sacrificed my whole life for him, and he had no right to abandon me like this for a dried up cheap slut in a power suit, a woman who is too old to give me grandchildren. I told him that I would tell everyone she subjected him to sexual harassment, I would ruin her. 


Now he has told me that if I do anything to harm his bitch he will never speak to me again, I will never see him. He told me she is pregnant. 

He has no right to do this to me, I will not allow this. I cannot lose my son like this, I won't let him go. I don't believe she is going to have a child at all, she is trying to trap my boy! How can I make him see the truth?

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