I knew my husband and his secretary had an affair, but now he has a 'genius' plan to move her into our house

Dear AmoMama,

I have been married for 25 years, and for nearly 12 I have been aware that my husband has been having an affair with his secretary.

The sad thing is that I actually like this girl. She is sweet and kind and has always done her best to be discreet. Though she is in her 30s she reminds me of my baby sister, who passed away when she was 20.

I was quite prepared to close my eyes to this relationship for the rest of my life, but now my husband has come up with a plan to bring this woman into my house, to live with us.

He tells me she is pregnant, is going to have his child, which I never could. He told me I failed in my duty as a wife, and now I must accept this woman, help and support her throughout her pregnancy, and afterward, he and I will adopt the child.

She will stay after the adoption, he said, as his personal assistant, as his lover, and no-one will ever know. They will think a miracle happened, and I gave birth at 45, that way, with no divorce, his great estate remains intact for his son, he said, who will be my son too.

Please, how will I be able to face the humiliation and the pain of seeing this girl give him a child? Of seeing him go to her every night when he hasn't made love to me in years?

Please help me, I don't know what to do, and I am too ashamed to speak to my friends.

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