I am in a very disagreeable and bewildering situation, and one I will have to face alone. My 14-year-old-son came home and told me his girlfriend (his age) is now pregnant.
He was frightened and crying like the child he in truth still is, and I calmed him down and told him we'd find a way to make things work out together as a family.
Her parents are apparently very upset, and demand that my son take responsibility for the baby and inclusively the medical bills. My poor boy was terrified, thinking I'd be angry too.
I told him that even though I felt they had been irresponsible, what is done is done, and we need to move on - as long as he learns from his mistakes.
When he was calmer, I took him downstairs to talk to my husband. I broke it to him as gently and carefully as I could, because my husband is a very strict man, and he is sometimes unpredictable.
He heard us out, but instead of being angry, or concerned about this problem he started laughing and clapping my son on the shoulders telling him "Well done, well done!"
We were both utterly bewildered, and even when I told him the girl's parents insisted we pay part of the bills, he was still grinning like an idiot.
Then he said to my son "Thank god, I thought you were a wimp and a faggot like your mom's brother!"
I couldn't believe the drivel that was coming out of his mouth! He preferred it that his son had compromised his future, got a young girl pregnant, than that he might turn out to be gay!
I think of the difficulties that still lie ahead for these two young people, how hard it will be for them to raise a baby at their age - even with all our help - and I am struck dumb by my husband's reaction.
My son is hurt and confused. I have to sit down and talk to this girl's parents, and I see that I cannot count on his father to help me.
How can I make him see sense? He is as proud as if he'd fathered that baby himself, oblivious to the havoc this pregnancy will wreck on these young lives.
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