Gabby Union reveals how she picked surrogate for baby Kaavia & her fears of being accepted as a mom
In a recent interview, Gabby Union revealed how she picked a surrogate for baby Kaavia. She also opened up about her fears of being accepted as a mom
After struggling to fall pregnant, Gabrielle Union eventually turned to surrogacy to become a mom. Her decision paid off when she welcomed her daughter Kaavia James into the world.
However, the idea of getting a surrogate had been difficult for Gabrielle. She revealed it took her quite some time to come to terms with the idea because she initially harbored feelings of inadequacy.
In an interview with Women’s Health, the L.A.’s Finest star admitted she suffered a sense of “failure” after being unable to deliver a baby herself. She had suffered from multiple miscarriages and rounds of in vitro fertilization.
“There’s nothing more that I wanted than to cook my own baby … the idea of it felt like surrendering to failure,” said Union.
Union, 46, elaborated that she had been worried about being “embraced as a mom” by others after welcoming her first child with husband Dwyane Wade. She felt like she would be looked at as a fraud because she had not experienced the pregnancy like other mothers.
“People want to see the bump, hear that you got hemorrhoids — they want to know you’re like them,” the actress said. “I was like ‘This is going to seem like the most Hollywood [expletive] ever. Will I be embraced as a mom?’ It’s terrifying.”
She eventually decided to opt for surrogacy and embraced her role in the process of choosing the perfect person to carry her daughter. There was one specific trait she hunted for in Kaavia’s gestational carrier.
“Some people care about the race, religion or food habits of their surrogate. I was like, ‘I want a reader,’“ recalled the Being Mary Jane star.
Union went on to reveal that she aspires to allow Kaavia to “be free” in her decision-making as she grows up. She added that she trusts that she has given her daughter the right foundation to make good decisions.
“I want to instill in her morals, values. And then I want to give her space to fill in those gaps, fall on her ass and make mistakes. Get an F because she didn’t study. Pick the wrong dude,” she said. “Pick the wrong friends and figure it out. I don’t want to be super judge-y.”
Union and her husband Dwayne Wade are doting parents to little Kaavia. They often show their little bundle of joy off on Instagram. Last year, Union had revealed precious moments from the birth of her daughter Kaavia in an emotional video on the social networking site.