I have reasons to think that my son’s wife cheats on him. Should I tell my son?

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Dear Amomama;

I have reasons to suspect my son's wife is cheating on him, and I don't know what to do.

My son and his wife married five years ago, and they have a two-year-old daughter. My son loves his wife and is devoted to his daughter, though I now have doubts that she's his.

I have been staying with them for the last three months to recover from a broken hip, and I must admit that she's been lovely and welcoming.

The problem is that I started picking up on some little things that worry me. My daughter-in-law works from home, and I've noticed that she sometimes gets "work calls" for which she walks out of the lounge and locks herself in her office where I can't hear her.

She goes out for lunch with friends and comes back smelling of a man's expensive cologne, and when my son asks her what she had for lunch she's always vague.

My son is completely oblivious to the signs, though she goes out once a week for a "girls' night" with her girlfriends. The "girls" always pick her up in a black car but never come in to greet my son though he supposedly knows them.

My daughter-in-law keeps bringing home expensive clothes and perfumes from exclusive shops and tells my son she got them on sale! I know there's no way she can afford some of those things, not even at a 60% discount. They are gifts from her lover, I'm sure of it.

I asked my son if he never wondered where his wife goes, and he told me he would never question her because he trusts her completely! Should I tell him my suspicions?

I am ashamed to say I've been thinking about my granddaughter's blue eyes since both my son and my daughter in law have brown eyes. I think he needs to know this woman is cheating on him, but at the same time, I'm afraid I will hurt him terribly.

Should I talk to my daughter-in-law about this? Should I tell my son? I need some advice because I honestly don't think I can make a rational decision about such an emotional issue.

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