My daughter is really unfair with her BF. He is good guy, but shouldn’t I support my child?

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Dear Amomama,

My daughter is really unfair to her BF. He is a good guy, I love him, but shouldn’t I support my child?

I must admit that my daughter isn't the easiest of girls. She can be very bossy sometimes and has a sharp tongue when she'd thwarted in any way.

I honestly think she has been very unfair and has behaved badly towards her boyfriend, who is an easy-going, patient young man who loves her.

Last week I witnessed a scene that for me would have been the last straw. They were having dinner at our home, and he received a message.

He then excused himself to make a call, which left my daughter fuming. While the poor man was on the phone, she kept twisting around to glare at him.

When he came back to the table she demanded to know who he had called, and when he said it was work related she started screaming at him, calling him a liar and accusing him of cheating.

When he calmly offered to show her the message on his phone, my daughter actually slapped it out of his hand and onto the floor. The scene was appalling and very embarrassing. My husband and I were speechless.

The more tolerant her boyfriend is, the worse my daughter gets. She has become absolutely unbearable, a complete bully.

When she's alone with us or with her friends, she's a different person, when she's with the poor man she is Attila the Hun.

I think my daughter has become abusive, and I want to have a talk with her boyfriend, suggest he takes a stand and end the relationship. Maybe then she will come to her senses?

My husband is against me interfering in any way, but it horrifies me to watch my daughter mistreat this poor young man who frankly deserves better.

Am I being disloyal to my daughter? I love her, but I think she is on a path that will bring only misery to her, and to this young man. What should I do?

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